Friday, April 13, 2018

THE PARADOX OF CHOICE IS KILLING DATING

Dating over the last 20 years or so has become significantly more difficult.  A lot of that can be blamed on dating apps.  The world of infinite choices has made it so that no one wants to choose anyone.  American Psychologist, Barry Schwartz wrote a book called The Paradox of Choice - Why More is Less.  The book talks about how when consumers have a wide variety of choices, they are more likely to have a harder time making a choice, more fearful of making the wrong decision, and instead of being happier, they become more frustrated and unhappy.




Monday, April 2, 2018

FREEING YOURSELF WITH FORGIVENESS

Something that I’ve been working in the last several years and especially one of the big things I’m focusing on as of late is...forgiveness. There are people that know they did you wrong and they don’t care. There are those that hurt you and own up to it.  There are others that hurt you and they have no idea. Other times, the person that hurts you is YOU. I’ve encountered all the above. In the month that I was focusing on myself and working on being a better me, Nick, my co-worker told me to work on forgiveness.


Wednesday, March 28, 2018

HOW YOU TREAT OTHERS SAYS A LOT ABOUT YOU


I was thinking the other day about how people treat you.  There’s a saying that people only treat you how you allow them to.  That’s true to a certain extent, but I also believe that people treat you because of who they are and the respect they have for other people.


Tuesday, March 20, 2018

I NEVER STOOD A CHANCE

One of my recent dating experiences has showed me a lot.  I've learned that sometimes things don't work and it's no fault of my own.  I've learned that you can be a great catch and someone won't want you.  I've learned that guys don't work on themselves as much as they should.  I've learned that sometimes you don't stand a chance.





Wednesday, March 14, 2018

ARE THERE ANY DECENT MEN LEFT?

Today I’m really struggling to keep the faith that I’ll find my person someday.  I’m around men all the time and I hear stories. I’m around women all the time and I hear stories, and then I know my own stories.  Some of the guys I know and hear stories from really makes me question if there are any decent men that truly want a lasting relationship.  I hear the stories of guys going through girl after girl.  They’ve got 4-5 girls hitting them up on Snapchat. Another couple of girls  they’re texting, and then there’s the few that come over.

 ARE ALL GUYS LIKE THIS?? Is it the guys that are confident that do this? Is it the guys have swag that pull this off? Should I avoid any guy that is charming because I’m already girl 7 on the list?

I had someone send me this meme that said “Social media killed reality” and it really did.  Now men have infinite amount of choices and then there are the girls that make it so easy for them thanks to social media.  I’m starting to wonder...not only are there any decent men anymore, but can anyone have a real relationship anymore?

I know of guys that say they do want a real relationship with just one woman, but still are still talking, flirting, sexting, dating, and sleeping with multiple women.  Do these guys just like the attention? And if they do...will the attention of 1 woman ever really be enough?

When does the playboy finally figure it out? Does he ever figure what he wants? When does that guy go from having 5 girls in the picture to just 1 girl? Is he capable of cutting all other girls off on Snapchat, Instagram,  and other ways?

I really want to know if what I want is even possible.  Maybe the kind of relationship I want doesn’t exist in 2018. Maybe the kind of man I want died with the invention social media and dating apps.

WE ARE ALL LIKE A RESCUE DOG

I’m a big dog lover. I’ve adopted a dog from a breeder in the past and I’ve rescued dogs from a shelter. I’ve also fostered shelter dogs. The thing about shelter dogs is they have a past. It’s a past that you know nothing about and a past that they can’t tell you about.

Saturday, March 3, 2018

THE HEART YOU HAVE TO GIVE SOMEONE

One of the things I think about A LOT (probably too much) is matters of the heart.





Love is this intangible thing that we all seek out to find. Even those of us that say we don’t care to have it, still yearn for that feeling in some way. Most of those people mask it by using sex as their tool.