I never thought I really let the weather affect my well being but, since January I have felt really down. I was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest where it is famous for raining all the time. And I have to say, I never in all of the 24 years I lived out there felt like I ever let the weather affect me. I mean, I'm a pretty sensitive girl anyway. When PMS time comes around I cry. If someone hurts my feelings I cry. I never thought I cried a lot but, compared to some of the girls I know...I seem to cry a decent amount.
I really noticed my sadness hitting me around Christmas. I was in Paris...alone. Which wasn't that bad. In fact, I liked the fact that I was in a foreign country doing it all by myself. At the same time, I kept thinking how it would've been nice to have someone there. Honestly, I was usually so busy walking around getting lost in the city to really pay attention to being alone. I met some great people on my trip...it was great!
When I came back it was New Year's weekend. I hung out with the girls. We all got dressed up and went to a big party. Everyone of the girls I was with was txt'ing or calling their current man squeeze or ex man squeeze...EXCEPT FOR ME! No one called or txt'd me nor did I txt anyone. It kind of made me sad. I felt for a second like I wasn't thought of.
Since then, I've been in and out of a funk. This summer when Sean and I broke up I was sad for a few months. Then I thought to myself, "Sean is probably WAY over me, he's probably dating, or more with girls...I need to get out and date!" So I went out on a few dates but, it never felt right. So whatever. Now flash forward a few more months...it's winter, cold, and dark. I feel sad. Sometimes I feel non-motivated. Although, I still make it to the gym at least 4 times week. I mean seriously, you should see my apartment. I have an office that needs to be put together. Yet, I don't want to do it! My clothes are everywhere...it looks loke a squater lives in my apartment.
Lately, I've been trying again to see what's on the market...yet...still not feeling it. I've been wondering...is there something wrong with me...or is it just this weather?
Sometimes I wonder if the weather combined with changes in my life recently are just now coming to a head. Moving here to Milwaukee alone, breaking up with Sean, getting a divorce all within 2 years without much wiggle room may have something to do it. Then, add the weather, my skin being dry, and the split ends!! I'm kidding. All I know is that I need some sunshine fast!!
Any suggestions on how to keep the blues away? I'll tell you retail therapy is not working!
Monday, February 25, 2008
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
I THINK I LOST MY MOJO...OR DID I EVER HAVE IT? HOW DO I GET IT BACK??
Well it's going on 2 years since my divorce. Over the past 2 years a lot has transpired. I had another long term relationship. I picked up and moved for a new job in a new city without knowing anyone and since I've been here for the last 8 or so months I've met some great friends that keep my head on straight.
I moved here to Milwaukee back in May, and in July my last serious relationship ended. When I moved here to take this job I had actually had a feeling that he would break things off. I guess we were going 2 different directions. At that moment is when the MOJO was officially gone...or was it ever really there?
Let's begin to when I had MOJO in the first place. Shortly before I became separated I started working out. See over the course of being married for 4 years I slowly gained some weight. I was not fat by any means, but it was heavy for me. I didn't feel good about myself and I thought that maybe the reason my husband didn't pay much attention to me was because I was 20lbs heavier. So I started working out with a trainer who was awesome. Now, he did flirt with me which made me feel pretty good. Since, my husband never so much as said boo to me let alone says that I was attractive. I started feeling noticed, confident, and sexy. I ended up losing those 20lbs and was back to my high school body again.
Well needless to say, my effort to look better and get noticed by my husband didn't really work. I tried but he really didn't. I started to feel like there had to be more to life than what I was getting. There had to be someone out there that would treat me better. So we separated and I moved out. I made a girlfriend from the gym and we started hanging out. Going out on the weekends for sushi and drinks...it was great! I started having guys look at me, flirt with me and I felt alive again. I felt confident. I HAD MY MOJO!!!!
Then I met Sean. At first I thought maybe I should just play the field and date around. I mean, I just got out of an 8 year relationship!! I hadn't been on any dates since I was 20! But you know, Sean was just what I needed. At first, I was a little apprehensive. I didn't quite know what to make of it all but, he was good to me. Surprised me with dinner. He made arrangements that I didn't know about. He took notice and I loved it. I felt great about life, love and myself.
Now fast forward about 6 months. His brother was not doing well with cancer and Sean decided at the last minute to cancel a trip to see me for the weekend. I of course was so sad. I hadn't seen him in 2 weeks and I missed him. I understood why he couldn't come but, I was being somewhat selfish and wanted my time with him too. During that conversation he said that he thought we should break up. We never really broke up...it was more like taking a break. I ended not seeing him for a month or so. When I did see him next, it was back to normal. The only thing was I didn't have the title of "GIRLFRIEND." I was just introduced as ERIN.
Not having that title screwed with me. I was afraid to bring it up for fear he would reject me. I LOST MY MOJO!!! Eventually, we went back to calling each other "boyfriend and girlfriend" but, to me I was never quite the same. I always wondered and second guessed his true feelings for me. I really second guessed everything in my head. Did he still think I was funny, beautiful, smart...blah blah blah.
Since then and still at this moment I DON'T HAVE MY MOJO! I haven't gained any weight but, I don't feel as good about myself as I did just a year ago. I, in fact, am probably more in shape than a year ago but still I'm not feeling good enough. I have a better job than I did a year ago but, still am not feeling up to par. And as far as love goes, now I wonder if I'll have to settle. Sean was not perfect, nor am I but, I now have doubts of what is out there. Will I ever find someone that will treat me so special ever again? What happened to the girl that believed that she could find better? What happened to the girl that thought she could turn a head or two...what happened to her?
I've even hove lost my MOJO in other areas...I went to this big TV Hosting workshop in LA with Mark Stienes of Entertainment Tonight. We all had to get up in front of the class and read off the teleprompter and read a script from ET. I didn't want to do it at all!!! In fact, people were volunteering and they stunk! I knew that I had more experience then probably most people in that room but I was scared to death! What happened to the girl that wasn't afraid of talking in front of a group? The girl that would volunteer to read a speech in class...what happened to that girl??
WHERE IN THE WORLD IS MY MOJO? AND HOW DO I GET MY MOJO BACK?
I moved here to Milwaukee back in May, and in July my last serious relationship ended. When I moved here to take this job I had actually had a feeling that he would break things off. I guess we were going 2 different directions. At that moment is when the MOJO was officially gone...or was it ever really there?
Let's begin to when I had MOJO in the first place. Shortly before I became separated I started working out. See over the course of being married for 4 years I slowly gained some weight. I was not fat by any means, but it was heavy for me. I didn't feel good about myself and I thought that maybe the reason my husband didn't pay much attention to me was because I was 20lbs heavier. So I started working out with a trainer who was awesome. Now, he did flirt with me which made me feel pretty good. Since, my husband never so much as said boo to me let alone says that I was attractive. I started feeling noticed, confident, and sexy. I ended up losing those 20lbs and was back to my high school body again.
Well needless to say, my effort to look better and get noticed by my husband didn't really work. I tried but he really didn't. I started to feel like there had to be more to life than what I was getting. There had to be someone out there that would treat me better. So we separated and I moved out. I made a girlfriend from the gym and we started hanging out. Going out on the weekends for sushi and drinks...it was great! I started having guys look at me, flirt with me and I felt alive again. I felt confident. I HAD MY MOJO!!!!
Then I met Sean. At first I thought maybe I should just play the field and date around. I mean, I just got out of an 8 year relationship!! I hadn't been on any dates since I was 20! But you know, Sean was just what I needed. At first, I was a little apprehensive. I didn't quite know what to make of it all but, he was good to me. Surprised me with dinner. He made arrangements that I didn't know about. He took notice and I loved it. I felt great about life, love and myself.
Now fast forward about 6 months. His brother was not doing well with cancer and Sean decided at the last minute to cancel a trip to see me for the weekend. I of course was so sad. I hadn't seen him in 2 weeks and I missed him. I understood why he couldn't come but, I was being somewhat selfish and wanted my time with him too. During that conversation he said that he thought we should break up. We never really broke up...it was more like taking a break. I ended not seeing him for a month or so. When I did see him next, it was back to normal. The only thing was I didn't have the title of "GIRLFRIEND." I was just introduced as ERIN.
Not having that title screwed with me. I was afraid to bring it up for fear he would reject me. I LOST MY MOJO!!! Eventually, we went back to calling each other "boyfriend and girlfriend" but, to me I was never quite the same. I always wondered and second guessed his true feelings for me. I really second guessed everything in my head. Did he still think I was funny, beautiful, smart...blah blah blah.
Since then and still at this moment I DON'T HAVE MY MOJO! I haven't gained any weight but, I don't feel as good about myself as I did just a year ago. I, in fact, am probably more in shape than a year ago but still I'm not feeling good enough. I have a better job than I did a year ago but, still am not feeling up to par. And as far as love goes, now I wonder if I'll have to settle. Sean was not perfect, nor am I but, I now have doubts of what is out there. Will I ever find someone that will treat me so special ever again? What happened to the girl that believed that she could find better? What happened to the girl that thought she could turn a head or two...what happened to her?
I've even hove lost my MOJO in other areas...I went to this big TV Hosting workshop in LA with Mark Stienes of Entertainment Tonight. We all had to get up in front of the class and read off the teleprompter and read a script from ET. I didn't want to do it at all!!! In fact, people were volunteering and they stunk! I knew that I had more experience then probably most people in that room but I was scared to death! What happened to the girl that wasn't afraid of talking in front of a group? The girl that would volunteer to read a speech in class...what happened to that girl??
WHERE IN THE WORLD IS MY MOJO? AND HOW DO I GET MY MOJO BACK?
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
WHAT TYPE OF HEART DO YOU HAVE?
I personally believe that people have 2 different types of hearts.
First there is the "GUARDED HEART". This is the type of heart that I have. In my opinion, this is the person that enters most relationships very cautiously. They try to take things slowly. They make sure that this person they are with has their best intentions in mind.
In most relationship or dating situations I've entered, I've done it with my guard up. In my relationship with my ex-husband I remember thinking..."ok what do I think of this guy?" In my relationship with Sean I remember being very cautious for several months. Actually for the first 6 months till he said "I Love you.” Then that's when I let my guard down. In the first few months that we dated I thought to myself "Should I be dating anyone in particular? Maybe I should date around? Is this guy good to me? What is this guy all about?" I then realized that he was indeed good to me and good for me so I let myself go for it. I went into that relationship slowly with my feelings and more and more I spent time with him the more and more I liked and appreciated him. Something else that I think a person with a guarded heart does.
Now that I'm back on the market so to speak, I again have the cautious, guarded heart. Apprehensive of whom I let in and what I let happen. I admit, that I've let my guard down before I should but, I've figured out really quickly to rectify that and not let it go on any longer. Now, the only problem is how to stop it from happening in the first place. Obviously, you're never going to really know what you're getting into all the time but, I guess that's the chance you have to take sometimes. There is that saying that 'It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.' It's a little hard to swallow at times but I get it.
Now the 2nd type of heart is the "OPEN HEART". This one I would almost call carefree or worry free heart. This heart will jump in to every relationship head first. They throw caution to the wind and let romance and lust among other things, take over. I think this heart is also the heart that falls fast at first but, gets bored quickly and disinterested. Almost like when the honeymoon period is over then they want to get out because it's too normal. It also is the heart that enters relationships and once they're over they can move on and chalk it up as "Oh well, too bad that didn't work out!" I think a lot of men have this heart. I know a guy named Earl that is his way. He actually told me once that when he has a break up he literally says "OH WELL!" Now maybe he is like this because girls always fall all over him. In fact, I've heard from a good source that a girl has NEVER broken up with him...he ALWAYS breaks up with them!!! It's maybe a little easier for him to have that attitude since it's almost guaranteed that he'll have another girl in a matter of time.
Maybe it's easier to have this type of heart when your heart has never been broken. Once I asked Sean if he's ever been broken up with and when he said no...I remember thinking "Oh Dear, He always is the one to get out...I see a pattern here." I then asked if he had ever had a broken heart...He thought for a second and his reply was "Well my heart was broken when you told me that you couldn't go to Hawaii with me." Which I did end up going...but still that's the only time? WHAT? He never felt a loss when a relationship ended?
So which heart is a better to have? The "GUARDED HEART". That protects ones self almost too much at times. Or is it better to have the "OPEN HEART" that dives in head first without much thinking before or afterwards? It's a tough one because it would be nice to have good combination of both. A smart, loving heart.
First there is the "GUARDED HEART". This is the type of heart that I have. In my opinion, this is the person that enters most relationships very cautiously. They try to take things slowly. They make sure that this person they are with has their best intentions in mind.
In most relationship or dating situations I've entered, I've done it with my guard up. In my relationship with my ex-husband I remember thinking..."ok what do I think of this guy?" In my relationship with Sean I remember being very cautious for several months. Actually for the first 6 months till he said "I Love you.” Then that's when I let my guard down. In the first few months that we dated I thought to myself "Should I be dating anyone in particular? Maybe I should date around? Is this guy good to me? What is this guy all about?" I then realized that he was indeed good to me and good for me so I let myself go for it. I went into that relationship slowly with my feelings and more and more I spent time with him the more and more I liked and appreciated him. Something else that I think a person with a guarded heart does.
Now that I'm back on the market so to speak, I again have the cautious, guarded heart. Apprehensive of whom I let in and what I let happen. I admit, that I've let my guard down before I should but, I've figured out really quickly to rectify that and not let it go on any longer. Now, the only problem is how to stop it from happening in the first place. Obviously, you're never going to really know what you're getting into all the time but, I guess that's the chance you have to take sometimes. There is that saying that 'It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.' It's a little hard to swallow at times but I get it.
Now the 2nd type of heart is the "OPEN HEART". This one I would almost call carefree or worry free heart. This heart will jump in to every relationship head first. They throw caution to the wind and let romance and lust among other things, take over. I think this heart is also the heart that falls fast at first but, gets bored quickly and disinterested. Almost like when the honeymoon period is over then they want to get out because it's too normal. It also is the heart that enters relationships and once they're over they can move on and chalk it up as "Oh well, too bad that didn't work out!" I think a lot of men have this heart. I know a guy named Earl that is his way. He actually told me once that when he has a break up he literally says "OH WELL!" Now maybe he is like this because girls always fall all over him. In fact, I've heard from a good source that a girl has NEVER broken up with him...he ALWAYS breaks up with them!!! It's maybe a little easier for him to have that attitude since it's almost guaranteed that he'll have another girl in a matter of time.
Maybe it's easier to have this type of heart when your heart has never been broken. Once I asked Sean if he's ever been broken up with and when he said no...I remember thinking "Oh Dear, He always is the one to get out...I see a pattern here." I then asked if he had ever had a broken heart...He thought for a second and his reply was "Well my heart was broken when you told me that you couldn't go to Hawaii with me." Which I did end up going...but still that's the only time? WHAT? He never felt a loss when a relationship ended?
So which heart is a better to have? The "GUARDED HEART". That protects ones self almost too much at times. Or is it better to have the "OPEN HEART" that dives in head first without much thinking before or afterwards? It's a tough one because it would be nice to have good combination of both. A smart, loving heart.
Thursday, February 7, 2008
SOMETIMES...I WISH I COULD ACT LIKE A BOY..PART1
There's a song that came out by Ciara called "Like a Boy" and it talks about all the things that a guy does to a girl. Only thing is, in the song the roles are reversed.
I can think of at least of couple of things that I wonder how it would feel to do if the roles were reversed and sometimes I just wonder what it would be like.
I can think of a lot of guys...actually...almost every guy I've ever come across that can have sex with a girl and not care. WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO HAVE SEX AND NOT CARE? Now, I'm not talking about random girls they don't know but, girls they are friends with or have at least tried getting to know. Guys can just have sex and not care about the girl. Even when a couple breaks up. He has moved on!! Wouldn't be nice to have the detachment? Do you what you want and not care!
How about when a girl calls a guy and he'll get back to her when it’s convenient for him. WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO HAVE A GUY WAITING AROUND FOR YOU TO CALL? Sure he may like you but he's got to do his own thing right now and he'll call you back when he's got nothing else going on. It’s like there's no sense of urgency. He'll just get around to it.
How about dating more than one person at the same time? WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE GUY ON A STRING? If a guy does it, it's pretty much expected and if a girl does it...well you know what they say. It's usually not very nice. Why can't 2 play that game?
Or when a couple breaks up, it seems that the girl always is a little more affected. I know that's been true with and some of my girlfriends. And it seems like the guys move on without even caring. They never cry about it or sit at home on a Friday night because they just don't feel like going out. They moved on before you can say "FRESH MEAT"!! For girls I think we have a period of mourning. I think I'm still in mine...hey I'm working on it...with guys, there is no period of mourning. MOVING ON!!! WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO NOT CARE?
I recently went on a few dates with someone and after I told him I didn't think it was going to work...a week later he was already getting booty calls from his "regulars"!!! AWESOME!!! STAY CLASSY!
WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE IF YOU MADE A GUY CRY? Now granted girls...we're sensitive but can you imagine if a guy wanted to see you and you canceled at the last minute and they got upset and cried. I can't even imagine. I haven't experienced a guy so much as missing me or just getting upset over me. Let alone crying over me. Sure my ex Sean cried when we broke up but I think he cried because he felt bad...not because it was hard for him or he was going to miss me...I think he just felt bad that he was doing it.
Just imagine for a moment if a girl could away with the stuff guys pull on girls. Funny thing is, this is only part of the list. I have more that I will share but for the time being, chew on this and tell me what you think!
E
I can think of at least of couple of things that I wonder how it would feel to do if the roles were reversed and sometimes I just wonder what it would be like.
I can think of a lot of guys...actually...almost every guy I've ever come across that can have sex with a girl and not care. WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO HAVE SEX AND NOT CARE? Now, I'm not talking about random girls they don't know but, girls they are friends with or have at least tried getting to know. Guys can just have sex and not care about the girl. Even when a couple breaks up. He has moved on!! Wouldn't be nice to have the detachment? Do you what you want and not care!
How about when a girl calls a guy and he'll get back to her when it’s convenient for him. WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO HAVE A GUY WAITING AROUND FOR YOU TO CALL? Sure he may like you but he's got to do his own thing right now and he'll call you back when he's got nothing else going on. It’s like there's no sense of urgency. He'll just get around to it.
How about dating more than one person at the same time? WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE GUY ON A STRING? If a guy does it, it's pretty much expected and if a girl does it...well you know what they say. It's usually not very nice. Why can't 2 play that game?
Or when a couple breaks up, it seems that the girl always is a little more affected. I know that's been true with and some of my girlfriends. And it seems like the guys move on without even caring. They never cry about it or sit at home on a Friday night because they just don't feel like going out. They moved on before you can say "FRESH MEAT"!! For girls I think we have a period of mourning. I think I'm still in mine...hey I'm working on it...with guys, there is no period of mourning. MOVING ON!!! WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE TO NOT CARE?
I recently went on a few dates with someone and after I told him I didn't think it was going to work...a week later he was already getting booty calls from his "regulars"!!! AWESOME!!! STAY CLASSY!
WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE IF YOU MADE A GUY CRY? Now granted girls...we're sensitive but can you imagine if a guy wanted to see you and you canceled at the last minute and they got upset and cried. I can't even imagine. I haven't experienced a guy so much as missing me or just getting upset over me. Let alone crying over me. Sure my ex Sean cried when we broke up but I think he cried because he felt bad...not because it was hard for him or he was going to miss me...I think he just felt bad that he was doing it.
Just imagine for a moment if a girl could away with the stuff guys pull on girls. Funny thing is, this is only part of the list. I have more that I will share but for the time being, chew on this and tell me what you think!
E
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
I'M SORRY...DOES IT EVEN MATTER?
I'm a girl that says she is sorry for everything. Even if I didn't do anything wrong, I say I'm sorry. For instance, when I call someone I'll always ask if they're busy...and when they tell me they are, I always say "Oh I'm so sorry to bother you!" I think I say sorry for everything.
Well recently I needed to apologize to someone for something. I assumed something that maybe I shouldn't have, although I don't know a single girl that if they were in my same exact situation wouldn't have assumed the same thing!!! But still, assuming things makes an A$% out of you and me! So I told this person I was sorry but it didn't make a difference. He was still livid. Funny thing was, he wasn't livid over the part he should be mad about and the thing that I was apologizing for. He was mad for something that he did himself to the 10th power. He couldn't step back and assess the situation with a clear head. He acted out of illogical emotion.
I still apologized for the part that I should have but it didn't matter. He wasn't listening, nor did he care. Which is fine, to each his own.
Think of people in the public eye when they do something that they shouldn't. Say for instance Don Imus, who got introuble for calliong the Rutger's Women's Basketball team "Nappy Headed Ho's". He made a public apology but by then the damage was done and he lost his job and the court of public opinion already made up their mind.
The encounter that I had really made me wonder that when one person apologizes to another does the apology really make a differnce?
Well recently I needed to apologize to someone for something. I assumed something that maybe I shouldn't have, although I don't know a single girl that if they were in my same exact situation wouldn't have assumed the same thing!!! But still, assuming things makes an A$% out of you and me! So I told this person I was sorry but it didn't make a difference. He was still livid. Funny thing was, he wasn't livid over the part he should be mad about and the thing that I was apologizing for. He was mad for something that he did himself to the 10th power. He couldn't step back and assess the situation with a clear head. He acted out of illogical emotion.
I still apologized for the part that I should have but it didn't matter. He wasn't listening, nor did he care. Which is fine, to each his own.
Think of people in the public eye when they do something that they shouldn't. Say for instance Don Imus, who got introuble for calliong the Rutger's Women's Basketball team "Nappy Headed Ho's". He made a public apology but by then the damage was done and he lost his job and the court of public opinion already made up their mind.
The encounter that I had really made me wonder that when one person apologizes to another does the apology really make a differnce?
Monday, February 4, 2008
WHAT I WANT IN A GUY...EVENTUALLY
A month or 2 ago I wrote a blog about what I thought the perfect guy was to me. I didn't have a ton of time to really figure out what I wanted in a guy. So, over the last couple months I thought that there are certain things that I need in a man and certain things that I want in a man. A lot of these are NOT a suggestion rather something I have to have.
When you start dating, you go through charecteristics in people that you like and don't. And after my last long term relationship I realized that there are qualities about him and that relationship that I don't think I should settle for not having in someone else....does that make any sense?
So here's goes the list.
-You must like to kiss...none of this pecking stuff. If I wanted to just peck kiss I would find a chicken. Seriously, some good kissing can really get things going. Nothing is better than a great passionate kiss.
-You have to like going out and doing random things like go to a wine tasting class, a cooking class, go skiing for the day...stuff outside the box
- A guy that likes to dance once in a while...someone not afraid to spin me around the dance floor.
- He MUST like to cuddle!...If you don't go away!
- Travel...it's a must! Whether it's for a weekend or for a full blown vacation! I need to see places
- Someone that can enjoy the finer things in life. Whether it's a good restaurant or a great wine. It doesn't mean you need to drive a Porsche though
-Wine...you have to like wine! I don't want to drink alone...that's not good!
-Works out and takes care of himself...you'd be surprised on what guys think "in shape" is...I work out...it would be nice to have a partner
- Someone not afraid of impressing a girl...For example, you actually put some thought into a date. Maybe a surprise here and there...if you treat your dog better than me...I'm out!
- Someone that will keep things interesting...In every aspect...If it's gets old it can get boring.
- Someone that has their stuff together...personally, professionally, emotionally, financally...you get the picture.
- Someone that can be relaxed in any enviroment...whether we hang at a dive bar, a swanky lounge or want to booty shake at a club.
- Someone not afraid to give a girl flowers or creative surprises.
- Someone passionate in every aspect...love..life...work.
- Someone that can put down the cell phone and isn't obsessed with work all the time..I know we all get busy for work...but still.
- He must like fish...I like to cook fish and I love sushi and I don't want to eat alone.
- Someone ready to try new things together...No matter what!
- Someone who will go to Starbucks with me on the weekends. I know it seems petty but..
- Will compliment me...not necessarily all the time. Maybe tell me I look pretty in the morning even if I have sleep in my eyes.
I know that this list may seem a little long and may even come across as a little picky but, to be honest with you, when you're use to being treated a certain way and that way was sweet, thoughtful and nice...why would you want to settle for someone that treated you less than what you thought you deserved. Granted everyone is different and it may be tough to find a person with all these qualities but after having someone try so hard to impress and flatter I can't go back to less than that.
If there is something on this that you may not understand or need to get clarifacation on...let me know. I can always define at a greater length.
When you start dating, you go through charecteristics in people that you like and don't. And after my last long term relationship I realized that there are qualities about him and that relationship that I don't think I should settle for not having in someone else....does that make any sense?
So here's goes the list.
-You must like to kiss...none of this pecking stuff. If I wanted to just peck kiss I would find a chicken. Seriously, some good kissing can really get things going. Nothing is better than a great passionate kiss.
-You have to like going out and doing random things like go to a wine tasting class, a cooking class, go skiing for the day...stuff outside the box
- A guy that likes to dance once in a while...someone not afraid to spin me around the dance floor.
- He MUST like to cuddle!...If you don't go away!
- Travel...it's a must! Whether it's for a weekend or for a full blown vacation! I need to see places
- Someone that can enjoy the finer things in life. Whether it's a good restaurant or a great wine. It doesn't mean you need to drive a Porsche though
-Wine...you have to like wine! I don't want to drink alone...that's not good!
-Works out and takes care of himself...you'd be surprised on what guys think "in shape" is...I work out...it would be nice to have a partner
- Someone not afraid of impressing a girl...For example, you actually put some thought into a date. Maybe a surprise here and there...if you treat your dog better than me...I'm out!
- Someone that will keep things interesting...In every aspect...If it's gets old it can get boring.
- Someone that has their stuff together...personally, professionally, emotionally, financally...you get the picture.
- Someone that can be relaxed in any enviroment...whether we hang at a dive bar, a swanky lounge or want to booty shake at a club.
- Someone not afraid to give a girl flowers or creative surprises.
- Someone passionate in every aspect...love..life...work.
- Someone that can put down the cell phone and isn't obsessed with work all the time..I know we all get busy for work...but still.
- He must like fish...I like to cook fish and I love sushi and I don't want to eat alone.
- Someone ready to try new things together...No matter what!
- Someone who will go to Starbucks with me on the weekends. I know it seems petty but..
- Will compliment me...not necessarily all the time. Maybe tell me I look pretty in the morning even if I have sleep in my eyes.
I know that this list may seem a little long and may even come across as a little picky but, to be honest with you, when you're use to being treated a certain way and that way was sweet, thoughtful and nice...why would you want to settle for someone that treated you less than what you thought you deserved. Granted everyone is different and it may be tough to find a person with all these qualities but after having someone try so hard to impress and flatter I can't go back to less than that.
If there is something on this that you may not understand or need to get clarifacation on...let me know. I can always define at a greater length.
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