IS ONLINE DATING GOING TO BE THE END FOR ME?

About a month ago I decided to get back on match.com. Well, I was always on there, but hadn't really given any thought or hadn't been a paying member for about a year. After not having much luck with dating on my own I decided that I wasn't getting any younger and that I needed to see if the 10th time would be a charm. Not to mention, the guys that I've met over that year's time were a constant reminder of the book "He's Just Not That Into You." Because well...they weren't that into me.

I'll be honest, In my month of being on match.com I'm starting to get rather disappointed. I've had 1 date and a lot winks from dudes that are about 55 years old and look as if they haven't seen a shower, razor, or their toes in about 7 years. Needless to say, I'm starting to wonder if God is playing a horrible joke on me.

The 1 date I did have was fine. Nothing bad, but nothing super fantastic either. I think some of his actions prior to our date made it hard for me to consider him as a match for me. (We'll get to that in another blog) The thing is, after that date I got a little gun shy to date more. Every time a date goes down in flames, so to speak, I wonder if I'm ever going to find anyone.

What's more frustrating is the times when I actually have the balls to wink or email a guy myself, I don't seem to get any response back. Or if I do get a response back they email back once and then vanish and aren't to be heard from again. I'm starting to feel like the 55 year old men that I don't respond to. Or the guy that hasn't seen his toes in years. Am I that hideous that that's the reason I'm not getting any responses?

I don't understand. Is God testing my patience? Because if he is...it'd be nice if he'd throw me a bone here and there. I've always kind of thought it, but I'm really starting to think that there really is something that makes me undateable. Or is God trying to tell me that the man of my dreams is in his 50's and smells like KFC? What is wrong with me?

I'm going to try to keep my head up and hope that at the end of all these frogs there's going to be one great prince. If not, then I'm going to need a few more vibrators...and batteries!

Best of luck on our quest for love.

IS LOVE REALLY BLIND?

The saying is that love is blind, but in my opinion it isn't. In fact, I'd say love sees opportunity. Now days love sees "What can you do for me?" "What is it that you have that I want or can benefit from?"

Have you ever thought that if money and status weren't in the equation, who you might really end up with? Who would you fall in love with based on being attracted psychically and emotionally vs. how much money they have or what business they own or how big your ring might be?

Most of us are guilty of this to a certain extent. A lot of us want to be with someone successful. There's nothing wrong with that. Think of the times that someone has tried to set up with someone. I can't tell you how many the person setting me up used the selling point of 'he's a lawyer, he's a doctor, his family owns this!'




It becomes especially easy to do this on sites like match.com. Even worse sites like sugardaddy.com or seekingarrangment.com make it easy to look for opportunity vs. love. With sites like match.com it's so easy to dismiss someone because of what they do for a living or how much they make.

(You know what's sad? I just realized that my last serious long term relationship was with someone I randomly met and I had no idea what they did when we went on a date. I just know that when I saw him across the room in the restaurant I thought he was dressed well and looked pretty cute.)




I can think of a couple that got together and the man is obviously older than his much prettier wife. Here's the thing, that guy is a big wig for some sports team. Do you honestly think for a second that when she met him that she was interested in anything other than the financial security? Hell no! I mean what attractive young woman goes for a fat older man unless he has money or something of status? The answer is NOT THAT OFTEN TO COUNT!

Usually women are the ones seeking status and money. However, there are a few rare occasions where the man wants the status and what she offers. For instance, I know of a guy that is a millionaire and when it came time to getting married, he didn't pick some normal girl with a normal job. No, he picked someone with status. A society girl with the added bonus of suite tickets for the rest of his life. No normal girl comes with in-laws that own a suite to the football game.



Everywhere you go there are gold diggers. But until I moved to Houston, I've never seen so many people together just for the financial benefits. There are so many people that see dollar signs instead of what the person offers on the inside.

I'll be honest, I think men with money only have themselves to blame when they marry a women that ends up taking advantage of them.. How many times do you see some guy that has a lot of money flaunting it around? In my opinion, you're just asking for it. So when the pretty young thing you married decides that she's tired of having some fat guy hump her every night and leaves you with half your money...you can only blame yourself because you flaunted it.

Guys usually go for looks over money. Women go for money over looks. When it comes down to it, neither sex is looking for the real connection anymore. He says, "She's HOT!", while she says, "He's rich!" If I'm wrong and love is blind...then you'd see a lot less old fat men married to young attractive women...just saying.

I'll end with a few thoughts, Money likes to marry money. If love is blind why wear a bikini? If love is blind a lot less fat dudes with money would get laid? And last but not least...would you be the person if you didn't know how much money they had or what they did for a living?

WOMEN: THE WEAKER SEX?

I hate to bag on a lot of my fellow females, but this week it has been bugging me after hearing stories about girls I know. I also decided to write this after some comments over the years about how I'm sooo bean to guys! So let's make my meanness even.

In the last several years of being completely single I've seen a lot things that women go through or do in relationships that just confirms that women are the weaker sex and men rule.

Example #1 HE CHEATS-YOU STAY

It happens all the time. A guy cheats on his wife or girlfriend and she stays because she lives him. WRONG! She stays because she's weak and refuses to stand up for herself. She stays because she really thinks he'll change. Or maybe he lies and said he'll change. Point is, she's weak because she believes his lies.

Example #2 YOU NEED HIM FOR MONEY

This one makes me want to snack a bitch every time I see some woman that just wants to be taken care of. Granted, different strokes for different folks. However, when you're that woman who has decided to let the man rule every aspect of your life and that includes how much money you can have. Then you have thrown in the towel and made yourself the weaker sex.

I can think of a girl I know that goes from guy to guy, from one serious relationship to the next, because shes a nanny and doesn't name a ton of money so she dates guys and then moves in with them so she has a place to live. Then when her boyfriend dumps her, she finds the next sucker, digs her claws in, within a month they're raking marriage and she's moved in. That girl is weak. Why because she can't do it by herself like a big girl should.

Example # 3 YOU LET HIM TREAT YOU LIKE CRAP

Every girl has a friend that they've had to talk off a ledge because she's upset by the way her man is treating her. I can think of a few myself...and a few times my friends have had that conversation with me.

I remember I had my former morning co-hosts in Milwaukee (Mathew and AJ) tell me that Mr. Dallas wasn't treating me very good towards the end. You know what, they were kind of right. But what did I do? In typical weak girl fashion, I just let it go on and made excuses for him until he decided to break up with me.

If I was was strong, I would've realized that it wasn't working out, that I should stick pup for myself and break things off.

Anytime you settle with being treated less than you want or more importantly, less than you deserve, then you are weak because you're allowing yourself to be taken advantage of and are settling.



Do you think if a guy had some chick treat him like shit that he'd sit there, make excuses, and take it? Maybe for a bit, but after a while even the dog that gets beaten, eventually bites sometime.


I'm not trying to bag on my species...just trying to open our eyes a little more.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY 2012!

Once again I spend Valentine's Day alone. And once again I participate in the HOT SHOW's 2nd Annual Shot Through The Heart. The first year I shot up my wedding photos and marriage license. Wait...I can't forget the card that my ex gave me when the relationship was going down the toilet.

This year I decided to shoot up a few things from my last major relationship... Mr.Dallas. Now, I don't hate Mr. Dallas despite the fact he screwed up my mental state for some time, and broke up with me over the phone. However, from the looks of this video it looks like I do hate him. Just to clarify I like to be kind of funny for the camera.

With one of my New Years resolutions being that I need to clean up my life in 2012. I decided that any anger I do/did have for Mr. Dallas or anyone else that's hurt me I need to get rid of.

So...let's get some aggression out!!!!

10 TYPES OF GUYS TO AVOID!!!

I stumbled upon this article and I thought it was too good not to share! Enjoy and Amen!


Author – Anam Ameen

Year after year we stumble upon a series of Mr.Wrongs! Every other guy you meet you think he is the one and before you know your on your way to splitsville and heartbreak. So ladies avoid heartbreak this year the award winning blog brings the list of the ten types of guys to avoid so that 2012 can be heartbreak free for all you beautiful women out there! So be picky and choose carefully cause a new year means a new start!

Because if you settle for MR LAME you will never find MR WONDERFUL!

Mr Damaged Goods

Now we all have problems and a past but Mr .damaged goods refuses to let his go. We girls sometimes mistake him for the strong and silent type but after a few conversations and a couple of drinks he lets it all out. He will either be crying over his ex or ranting about how all women are horrible creatures from hell! Clearly this guy is not over his ex so steer clear!

The Sleazy Creep

If you ever meet this guy at a party he would invite you to his place a million times, after you have said NO! Even if they seem like nice guys from afar just after a few words if they stare too much below your neck and invade your breathing space excuse yourself from such dudes and if they are still persistent then well using your tae kwon do skills on them wont do you any harm!

Mr. Needy

This guy is like Puss in boots from shrek, complete with the limpid pool eyes! Now ladies we all love charity but neediness is not a good basis for a healthy relationship. While it is great to help others out but this dude does not want to help himself. Stay way or forever be sucked into his black hole of doom!

Mr. Holier Than Thou

We all want honest truthful men but when they start acting like the high priest and condemning every single thing and become a party pooper in your life, well then you can say bye bye to fun. Such guys feel that it is their need to alter you as you are on your path to hell. DONOT ink about him. He will only make you feel bad about everything you do and you will be sucked into the whirlpool of depression only to become suicidal!

Mr. Cheapo

While the recession has sucked us all dry of our cash this guy is extra stingy. He never pays and always in the middle of an important “project” that needs all his finances. Usually you end up paying for your dates. Now there might be times when a lad is strapped for cash but a guy who is this stingy with his money will also be stingy with his emotions and affections. Leave the relationship NOW! Women like to feel pampered and lets go dutch means you go home alone!

Mr. Possessive

At first glance this guy is prince charming, he opens doors, saves you the problem of ordering for yourself and does not let you do anything.Girls be warned if a few weeks into the relationship you feel like your trapped in an airtight container then move out. Such controlling guys tend to have violent tendencies and that is no laughing matter.

The Bad Boy

Now we all love Johnny Depp, Chuck Bass and James Dean. Throughout the times all women lust over bad boys in the hopes that they will reform them. Sorry ladies but if the end of the world has not changed them chances are you won’t either. So stay away from them because they will only give you a broken heart and don’t be tempted by their fake i am just a softy at heart lie,it is just a facade.

The Bickerer

This dude has fight in him ! but not in a good way. Every conversation is an opportunity for contention and they’ll argue black is white and white is black, if it gets a reaction. A bit of banter has a tendency to turn tiresome with the fighter – so keep your cool and walk away before he ruins your life!

Mr False Hope

This man is an amazing liar! He is like a politician. He will keep on making promises. It is best to spot this jerk soon. He is unreliable never delivers what he promises. If you notice this quality early on do not continue a relationship with him. He is pretty capable of leaving you stranded alone in the Sahara desert.

Mr. God’s Gift to Women

This delusional idiot thinks he has the looks of adonis and the charm of don juan. He loves to be the center of attention and his mantra is “all eyes on me”.If a guy is selfish in the beginning of a relationship then rest assured you will be the farthest thing from his mind later on. Men who love them self too much have little love left in their hearts for other people. You don’t deserve to be with a jerk. Stay away from him.

Author – Anam Ameen