FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!! I need to have a talk with the men that read this blog. Especially the ones that read this, that maybe have a crush, are interested, or whatever in me. Because we need to get a few things straight here.
I’m writing this blog because someone made the comment about me having more self confidence. Here’s the quote…”You need to show more self confidence and be open to giving people a chance.” First of all, what in the world are you talking about? The reason that this comment bothers me is because I do give people chances. Sometimes, over and over and over and over again. Get my point? Sometimes I give the wrong people a chance. On the flip side, I’ve given lots of different kinds of men chances. I’ve given the “bad boy” a chance. The “sensitive guy”, “Mr. I’m afraid to get married”, “Mr. I can’t date you because I’m hurt”, “Mr. What do you want I’m really busy right now!”, “Mr. I’m gay and don’t know it yet” guy, all of these guys I’ve given chances to. And not only that but, they all look different.
I don’t think that I need to give every guy that comes along a chance. If I did, that would mean I have no standards. Let’s face it we all have standards. We all need standards. It’s our own way of sifting out the riff raff. The one’s that just are not right for YOU. And be perfectly honest with you, I think my standards are pretty simple.
Someone asked what kind of guy I'm looking for. I feel like I’m beating a dead horse here but, here it goes. A guy that is successful and smart. Someone caring, thoughtful and takes time to notice the little things. A guy that doesn’t come with too much emotional baggage or any type of baggage. I like a guy who likes to stay fit, likes dogs, likes to travel, red wine, sushi, nice restaurants and there are other things. Most importantly, I like a guy that is attentive and unselfish.
Most of my relationships have revolved around the other person. Not because I was obsessed with them but because everything revolved around them. It revolved around their schedule, their job, and what they had going on. Basically they had their priorities and I wasn’t top 5. For instance, I had an ex tell me they couldn’t meet me for dinner the next day because he might have to meet the big boss if he came into town. Wait, so the guy isn’t for sure coming to town and you’re already canceling? Or the ex that told me that dating me was tough because he didn’t exercise as much as he wanted. So having someone unselfish or at least willing to compromise would be great.
Now, if you think to yourself. I’m all of those things…why don’t I get a chance? Well I have to be physically attracted too. LBS here, when you meet someone randomly out at a gym, grocery store, whatever, you see them and something strikes you. And like I’ve said before, I’m attracted to guys all over the board looks wise. I’ll even give some different looking guys that are celebs to give you an idea.
I sometimes like guys with shaggy hair
I sometimes like an exotic looking guy
I somtimes like guys with no hair
That’s all I have on this topic. So no more writing me saying “Erin why don’t date that fat guy with the ponytail that lives in his van down by the river?” Because I won’t but I WILL hunt you down and smack you on the forehead! :)