Recently I've come to terms with being the person that someone would just call when they wanted something from me. They would call me when they had no other girl around at the moment. They would call when they needed...uhh huh!
It took me a second to figure it out. I mean with all the calling to see how I was and wanting hangout to the I'm sorry I've been such a donkey's rear end to you. I think it was misleading for sure. Then I had an epiphany. Several weeks ago on a Wednesday night I was out enjoying a happy hour with 2 of my best girlfriends. I missed this call from a number I don't know and then hear the VM and it's you know who. Calling to see how I was and how I've been. Well, I was busy so I wasn't going to call back. Then about an hour later I get a txt saying, "What U been up to?" I thought that was rather odd. Why would he be blowing me up? Was he REALLY just wondering how I am? Or was he laying the ground work to get something?
Needless to say I never called or txt back. I chose choice #2. He was probably looking to get something. You know I find especially interesting, is that it's been a couple weeks later and he has never called or txt again. Gee I wonder why? I find it interesting that if he was so curious on how I was doing wouldn't he care enough to call back? I guess not!!!
What I find even more interesting is that this person was the same person that called me to say he was sorry for treating badly and wanted to be friends. Does that mean being friends on his terms? When he wants something? When HE has time for me? When HE is lonely?
The reason this bothers me and I bring this up is because I told him and his friends that I was scared of him hurting me and using me. I even said for him not to do that to me!! You know the line I got..."Oh Erin just be patient with him, he's really a good guy." You know that maybe true....but he was not a good guy to me!
I move on but I wanted to share this story with people in hopes some people may open their eyes to how you treat people and how others may treat you.