The older we get, the more of us are having kids. And with the way things are going in our society, many of us become divorced with kids. Frankly, past the age of 30 there's more and more of that.
So how does it work when dating a person with kids? There's a few things that I wonder about.
Say I meet a guy that has a couple kids with another woman. We start dating and things become serious. In his heart and mind are you always second best when it comes to the baby mama?
For instance, a couple that was together for years and then gets a divorce or whatever, is the woman that he ends up with him next never as good as the woman that gave him children? Does the mother of his kids always place number 1 in his heart? What if the relationship ended horribly?
The reason I ask this is because I've never really known if I wanted kids. When I was married I didn't want them with him. Mr. Dallas on the other hand, I thought he would've made a great dad; but since him, I haven't really dated anyone long enough to even go and think of kids. So I haven't.
Nor have I really dated a guy with kids. Typically, I've shied away from it because I've always felt there was going to be more drama then I wanted to deal with, or frankly, deserved to deal with. However, the years are ticking away, and it's becoming more and more apparent that I may meet a guy with kids one of these days. And then what?
(Side Note: Kids to me are a huge decision and if I ever had them I'd want a partner that would be a great parent and be there…period. Kids are not something I take lightly. They are for the rest of your life. And I refuse to have kids with just anyone and do it part-time. I want the father of my kids (if I ever were to have them) to be best man I've ever met. Because I'll be connected to them forever. I don't want to be connected to some douche just to get my 2.5 children. )
Back on topic here...
I know that for the most part you're always gonna hold a place in your heart for people that once meant a lot to you. The mother of your children should. However, I think most women want to be with a man and have them think of her as the "greatest love of his life." No one wants to go into a relationship with anyone where their heart is with someone else.