Wednesday, March 7, 2012


We've all seen the magic 8 ball that you shake to get the answer to your question. Usually you ask it a question about your future. Most of the time girls ask about relationships. And most of the time we shake that thing until we get the answer that we like. So what if you had a REAL magic 8 ball that could tell you REALLY what you future was? What would you ask?

I have 3 things that I would ask about. Like everyone I'd ask "Will I ever find love with a real human being? Will I find lasting love?"

People tell you, me, and everyone that once you stop looking for it you'll find it. People say that there's someone out there for you and you'll find them when God thinks you're ready. OK. first of all, not true. If that were the case, why do some people go from relationship to relationship? Because God thinks their ready??? Sorry not buying it. Maybe he'll bring the "right' one into my life when he thinks I'm ready, but I'd like to know if he'll ever think I'm ready. Can I ask the magic 8 ball that question?

People tell me that I worry too much about being single for the rest of my life. That may partially be true, but I think that if I knew that one day I would find love I wouldn't sit here and constantly wonder if I'll be lonely for the rest of my life or wonder what I'm doing wrong that I can't find anyone. I'd like to know that eventually it'll alright.

On the flipside, if the magic 8 ball told me that I would indeed live a life of singleness till I'm old and gray I'd go out and make the most of it. Of course after the initial shock and sadness wore off, I'd be out there enjoying every meaningless man I could find. That and I'd stop putting things in my life on hold because I wanted to have someone else to share it with or do it with. I'd go out there and just do it all.

My next magic 8 ball question would be, "Will I ever be successful in my career? Or Will I ever feel like I've arrived?"

I'm not sure if I'm looking for one definitive moment or just the overall feeling in general. I know that money plays a part to the measure of my success. Not that I make bad money know, but it's not comfortable enough for me for have a sizable savings account.

My last question for the magic 8 ball is "Will I be financially secure or will I always be struggling?

Growing up poor is something that gave me character and an appreciation for the underdog, but it's not something I want for myself or my possible family in the future. I'd love to be able to buy my own place. (Especially if the magic 8 ball tells me that I'll always be single.)

Knowing the future can be a scary thing to some. And trust me when I say I don't want to all my future, but I'd like to know that the things I worry about the most will turn out alright. So if you had a magic 8 ball what would you ask?


Anonymous said...

Everyone wonders or worries about many different things, including what you just mentioned. However, just try to remember that the real troubles in life will most likely occur completely unexpectedly.

With that said, regarding the questions you bring up, are you giving yourself a real chance to succeed in reaching your goals? With relationships, do you ever ask a guy out? Doing so is probably doesn't come naturally to women, but it's 2012. Don't wait for the guy to pick up on your signals. Many men are clueless at times. At least give it a try if you find someone interesting and want to find out more.

Career success. I guess only you can define what "success" is to you in your chosen career. If you enjoy going to work everyday and you're genuinely fulfilled at the end of the day, then that's already better than majority of people.

Finally, regarding financial security, only you can answer that question. How much is enough? Ten million? One million? I guess it all depends on the type of lifestyle you want to live and also where. I hear Houston area is inexpensive compared to both coastal areas. There's been studies done which concluded that above $50k, the additional money won't bring any additional happiness. Some other intangibles besides money will make people feel fulfilled. If you're already making that much, then try to focus on something besides just monetary things.

Anonymous said...

You sound so vapid in all your posts. Perhaps this is the problem...