Example #1. A guy I that I semi-dated in Milwaukee. I say "semi-dated" because I knew it was going to go nowhere and I planned on moving in the coming months. So a few months back, I got a text message from him. Now, keep in mind I hadn't really talked or heard from him in at least 6 + months. So I open the text and there's a picture of his penis. I thought at first that he must've texted me by accident. After my initial shock I texted back with a "Wow! Why did you send this to me?" He responded back with, "I thought you should have it." So clearly he knew who he was sending it to. Then he wants me to send a pic back. (THAT DID NOT HAPPEN)
I have to say that was my first penis pic! At the time I thought that was so random. I still have no idea why after not seeing each other in over a 1year+ , and not speaking for 6+ months why he sent that to me. Was he laying in bed reminiscing about old times? Possibly. However, I now think that he thinks of me as just that girl.
Example #2. A guy that I've mentioned in previous blogs. (Hmm douche bag comes to mind) This is a that I never had sex with. We never saw each other naked. We went on a few dates and that was about it. He was a guy that I thought might have some real potential. However, I soon realized that I was the only person that thought that way. Shortly after going on our 2 or 3rd date I started getting text messages that turned sexual in nature. Talking about the things he'd like to do to me.
I remember telling him that I didn't think it was appropriate for him to talk to me like that because it made me feel like he only thought of me s a piece of ass. Well, I hit the nail on the head on that one. It was clear that he wasn't looking at me as someone to be the mother of his children, more like someone to call daddy...if you know what I mean. That one I don't blame myself.
Example # 3. This is a guy that I've never dated, but am friends with and have had relations with. I received a text from him that was somewhat naughty. That was followed by a penis pic. That was then followed by something even more scandalous. I was initially shocked and not sure how to respond or if I should respond.
After awhile I got kind of bummed out. Clearly, this guy thought if me as "that girl." I was the girl that he thought would be into that and I was the girl that he thought might like it.
Not I that I ever thought he and I would date or that I'd go and meet the family, I was just bummed because I realized that I had higher regard for him than he did for me. I realized that I was always just going to be that dirty girl. Nothing more...ever. And for that I have no one to blame but myself. From the way it started, till that penis pic moment. The way he thought of me was all my fault.
So, just like I think that guys don't respect women who send naked pics unsolicited, I also think that if a guy sends you naked pics or more, he doesn't respect you either. The sad thing is, ladies what do we do? Do you act like a prude or do you play along? Either way, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.