I think I've written on this topic before, but after this weekend I got thinking about the topic again and it made me think that a fresher is in order.
In the last couple of years I've noticed men's behavior when it comes after a break up, divorce, or just single on the prowl. My conclusion is that many men can't be alone. I would almost say that 85-90% of men cannot be without female attention for a considerable amount of time. (2 weeks doesn't count)
Over the weekend I ran into a guy that I went on a few dates with. I've seen him a few times at various events and every time he's there with a different girl. Not sure if he's going through these ladies like I go through underwear, or if he has a roster on a rotation. Point is he's never once been seen without a girl with him. Almost like he needs to prove to people or himself that he's an awesome catch.
A lot of the guys I've dated are like that. They go from one girl to the next without much downtime in between time, if any. Mr. Dallas is a good example. Granted, I haven't spoke to him a year or so, but when we were speaking I know that the longest he went without dating some girl was maybe 2 months. The ex-husband was the same way. Well to be honest, most of the guys I've dated are like that. I can only think of maybe 1 or 2 that weren't like that.
Look at George Clooney!!! There's a guy that has this written all over him! He barely had ditched the Italian girl and the next thing you see is the next girl, Stacy Keibler over at his house. I mean that guy barely waited until the body was cold before he was on to the next one.
I have a few guy friends that are also big examples of this. The guy moved to a new city and hadn't even been there 2 months before he had chicks he was hooking up with. I said chicks...because there was more than one.
By the way, I'm not just saying that men are the first to get a girlfriend or get remarried, but they're also, in my opinion, the first to get laid. Even if you just hook up with the guy and you're not dating. Guaranteed he'll sleep with another girl before you sleep with someone again...even if the next time you sleep with someone is him!!! (Trust me this has happened to me)
Think about when a guy and girl break up. How many times have you seen the guy on the prowl to get laid after the break up? I think of a few guys that I'm either friends with, dated, or whatever and before the body is even cold they're seen trying to hook up. Sometimes she's not even out of the picture yet.
Why is this? Do guys just need constant attention and validation? Is it that they know they don't have to be alone so they will take the company of ANY woman just so they have something around? Do they need the ego boost? Is it just for the sex? Are they guys settling with anything because they're lonely? (You know what they say...a hole's a hole!) Is it because they're narcissistic?
Don't get me wrong, I know women do this too. However, with the most of the girls I know, including myself, we needed time to be sad. Some are better than others at moving on, but some of us were sad for months before we even considered a date or sleeping with anyone.
J-Lo is a prime example of a female that moves on quickly and that drives me bonkers too. Maybe because I'm slightly jealous that I can't pull that. I mean, she goes from Marc Anthony to Bradley Cooper!!! Sheesh!! I haven't had a real boyfriend in 4+ years but my rebound was never a Bradley Cooper. Although, I have scored some hot guys...just never dated them! Ugh.
I'll admit part of the reason this bothers me is probably because I'm a bit jealous. I mean, I haven't had a date to an event in quite some time and yet I see guys with a different chick every time they're out. Yet, every time I go to an event, my date is my girlfriends. Then again, it's about the quality for me and not the quantity. Wouldn't it be nice to have a roster to pick from once in awhile? Or just be able to move on and find some hottie to have at the snap of my fingers??