I was at the pool a few weeks ago and met this girl. She was was about 35, super cute, fit, nice, and SINGLE! She's has never been married and wasn't dating anyone at the moment either. We talked awhile about all sorts of stuff. One thing that she said to me that is starting to make more and more sense is that "MEN DON'T HAVE TO PICK JUST ONE GIRL."
In fact, she went on to say why guys don't have to pick one girl. There are so many pretty girls in Houston that they can have a different one every night of the week. Which I'm thinking is kind of true. It's almost like men have dating A.D.D.
Sometimes guys don't really need a girl that has any substance...just physical attractiveness. Let's face it. Men like being around attractive women and some don't really care if the girl can carry on a conversation. They enjoy the attention for whatever reason even if the girl is totally hanging out with them for the wrong reasons. You know, what can he do for me?
When I lived in Milwaukee I always felt like it was a very small town and there were some slim pickings in the dating department. I thought for sure I'd have better luck in Houston. As of yet, I haven't had any love connections, but I'm finding guys here have a lot of options. Almost too many.
So, it makes you wonder how does anyone ever get into a relationship when there are so many women to choose from? Better question is do these men even want a relationship? Or are we ladies just space and time fillers?
I'd like to think that if a guy is asking you on dates and taking you to dinner, spending time with you that you aren't just a time or space filler. I'd like to think he enjoys your company. Although maybe I'm wrong. I missing something?
I've also noticed that guys I meet do not want girlfriends. They tell you that they don't want a relationship, that they don't have time or they want to do what they want to do and feel as though we get in the way. I'm wondering if that really true or if it's a cop out.
I did have this conversation with a guy friend of mine and he compared us ladies to an employer hiring you for a job. In other words, What makes that employer hire you over all the other candidates? Or Why does the guy pick you over all the other ladies? I mean, how do you win?