So in my last blog I mentioned that I'm not smooth when it comes to talking to guys my own age. However, I did work up the cajones to go up to a guy and introduce myself. That's a huge step for me. HUGE!
I saw him at the airport. There was eye contact made several times so I decided to just do it! He seemed surprised but I think it's because he thought I was with someone. Which I wasn't. There was a guy from my flight that was talking to me. After I said I just met them on the flight he said he'd like to meet for a drink sometime and asked for my number.
It got me thinking, do guys like it when girls approach them? Do guys appreciate or do they get weirded out? May I add, I just introduced myself. It's not like I told the guy I want to see the inside of his britches! I'm not that kind of girl.
Honestly, I don't know what got over me in that situation. Maybe it was my time in Vegas that got my ego up a bit. Having people hit on me was very flattering. It was a confidence booster and I guess I thought I need to take more chances.
Now the big question is will he call? I hope so...let's just hope I didn't scare him.
And do guys find it sexy or scary when girls come up to them?
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Erin - I am a female, but I think that was a great move!! You just never know - hope it all works out!! Keep us(in Milwaukee) posted.
I don't really think women should make a move like that. There are more subtle ways of letting men know you're interested. I'm female too so I know my opinion wasn't solicited. I am really interested in what guys think about this.
I think they would think something like, "okay I guess I'll give it a try (since it was so easy)". But they might not give it a real shot. You know, kinda like a 'what the heck effort'. I guess I'm having a hard time expressing myself today. I hope you get the picture.
Anonymous...that's an iteresting point! I see what you're saying.
So many guys don't put forth much of an effort anyway. Even when they're the ones to persue things.
I'm very curious what men think about this...Hopefully we find out.
From a man: We are tired of the games you women want to play. Plus we don't really care about your moods brought on by PMS or that bogus PPMS. We just want to get laid and move on. You make us glad we're men.
Wow bitter party of one!!! :)
Games are played by both parties. So to say only women play games is a fallacy.
And I know lots of guys just want to get laid...but I pray that are decent guys that want something a little deeper.
from a man I would say that it is okay for a women to walk up to them and ingage in a conversation or introduce them like you said you saw him make eye contact with you and you where talking with someone else maybe he thought you where with the guy. Really you never now maybe he was shy and nervous about just coming up to you. But it is okay for women to come up because that to me would should that you have interest and i would not have to be the one walkiong up to you and ya i disagree with the other guy about all guys care about is getting laid and that women are te only one who plays games.
Finding a guy who is caring and sweet and interested in what a woman has to say is really hard to do Erin. Mainly because those guys already have boyfriends. He He He...
Greetings from MKE. Still wish you were on morning radio here. At any rate, good for you for not waiting for life to come to you. As a man, I would be intrigued by a woman who was willing to take the first step. Let us know how things work out. And for the record, my now wife took the initiative when I first met her. Best of luck to you.
Anon (man) Needs Therapy.
Erin,
Hope this isn't too long.
My male perspective: It's okay for you to make the first move as long as you don't mind continually being the aggressor in the relationship (it sounds like you don't want a short term thing). But that doesn't mean you have to sit back and let him do all the work.
Whenever I'm in a social situation and I run into a girl I'm attracted to, I always look for what I've deemed as "the look of confirmation," or the "come-here-and-talk-to-me-eyes." :) If I'm looking in that girl's direction, and she looks at me for more than a few seconds... it's on!! It doesn't always turn into something special after I start talking with them, but at least I've created a new acquaintance and possibly a new friend.
It does sound like this guy likes to be the initiator (since he was surprised by your action), so I think you lucked out. But if he doesn't call you back, next time try just looking over at the guy that you're interested in, just for a few seconds and hold eye contact. If he is also interested and wants to pursue - LET HIM!
Keep me posted if he gets in touch: I hope it works out.
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