The older I get the more I become aware of married men. When I was younger and sometimes even now I didn't think to look at the guy’s finger for a ring. However, in the last couple years I've started becoming more and more diligent about looking for the ring of "don't go there."
You might remember the story of the married guy that I met while in Milwaukee. He didn't wear his ring and in fact, when I found out he was married it was the classic "I'm so unhappy, my wife doesn't understand me" story.
Well, it's about a year later and those two are still married and from what I hear they look like a happy couple when they're at the gym together. Although, I think that the Mrs. has had some fun on the side for awhile.
Anyway, let's go the recent meetings of married men. In the last 2 weeks I've had 2 different married guys hit on me.
One was in Vegas at the ACM Awards. I was introduced to him by an associate of his. He is in the band for a VERY VERY famous country singer. We were having normal conversation till he made some off colour comment that was a bit forward.
He saw me look at his finger and I told him that a girl has to look for that stuff. He proceeded to tell me that his wife never wants to have relations with him and blah blah blah. When I asked, "If you're so unhappy why don't you just get divorced?" His response was, "Who said I’m unhappy?"
He then became even more forward with his trying to persuade me. I informed him that I'm not a Tiger Woods girl. He had a comeback for that one too. Saying that it was him that would be the A$$hole, not me. I couldn't believe my ears. The shear arrogance of this guy was unbelievable.
Needless to say, I started moving to different parts of the room to avoid his high pressure sales tactics.
Then, last week I was working an event at a bar for work. I was sitting with my coworker when 2 guys came up and started talking to us. Again, I noticed that one of them had a ring. He at first was being normal, but after several drinks and shots he became extremely flirty.
Telling me what an awesome girl I am and how gorgeous I am. Granted, all nice things to hear however, they sound better coming from a guy that's single.
I asked him what was on his finger. He said, "Oh, you and your questions." Obviously trying to avoid the subject. I asked, "Is that a wedding ring or did you get the ring at a flea market?" Again, he just tried to avoid it.
Turns out that the guy is indeed married and his friend even told me that he has 2 kids at home! AWESOME!
After meeting that guy I got sad a little. I just started to wonder, do all guys behave this way? Do they put on the facade that they are happy when they're at home and when they go out with the guys they act as though they are single? Part of me thought maybe I should stay single forever.
All of it made me sad. Not only are there men out there that act this way, but there are women who believe their crap or know its crap and don’t care.
Look at all the women that hooked up with Tiger knowing full and well that he was married with children. How despicable. Shame on all of them. Shame on the girl that doesn’t care if the guy's married. Shame on her for using the excuse "He's in an unhappy marriage." Shame on the girl that actually believes he'll leave his wife for you. Shame on the girl that doesn't think those actions hurt anyone. And shame on the guy that forgets that he made a commitment in front of God to love honour and cherish.
So the next time this may happen to you and you find yourself actually thinking that doing this would be a great idea. Just remember, you are hurting someone; and more than likely one of those people is yourself. Every action has a reaction and consequence.