A couple of months ago I talked to an ex boyfriend of mine. I had recently gone on a few horrific 1st dates. I mean simply horrible. I knew that he had been on match.com for awhile so I wanted to compare notes of what kind of girls he was finding. I just needed to know that I wasn't the only person having a hard time finding someone.
You see, ever since he and I broke up I've only dated guys for a month or two a piece. Sometimes, when I get frustrated with it all I wonder to myself..."Is it ME?"
During our conversation I discovered he didn't have much more luck than I did. Although, he has dated someone for at least 6 months where that hasn't been the case for me. Obviously.
One thing I noticed is that a couple of the girls he dated had some SERIOUS issues!! Like eating disorder serious. In fact, he dated 2 different girls after me with eating disorders. And, he dated at least 1 girl before me with one too.
I don't know how he seems to attract girls with eating issues and why he continues to date them. Maybe he likes to be the hero and try to fix them. Not sure. And this guy is extremely picky. AND...I'm sure these girls are great girls otherwise. And I mean that. I'm not being a snot.
Now, let me just say. I don't have an eating disorder of any kind. I LOVE FOOD! In fact, there's not a type of food I won't eat. The only thing I won't eat is peanuts and maybe some weird sushi thing like octopus.
I have a saying that "I tend not to eat things with eyelashes." Meaning, no steak or pork. Although, I will eat those things sometimes. If I go to Ruths' Chris Steakhouse...I'm gonna eat a steak! Oh! And no babies! I don't eat babies. Meaning, NO lamb or veal.
OK back to the story. After I got done talking to him about these girls and their ailments, it got me thinking. Really, you'd rather date girls like that then a girl like me? I even said to him, "No offense, but I think I'm the most normal girl you've ever dated." To which he replied, "You know...I think you're right!"
It just got me kind of bummed. I was bummed because I think I'm a pretty cool chick. I'm not a whiner. I don't expect guys to give me everything. I'll eat anything. I'm not materialistic. I'm not spoiled. I'm not completely needy. Although, I do expect you to treat me well. Yet, these girls, that have these serious issues are getting guys. WTF?
Should I start having an eating disorder so I can get a boyfriend? Do I need to be a materialistic biatch to have a guy call? I'm mean REALLY people! Now, of course I'm kidding! It's just all a little ridiculous.