I was watching an episode of Law and Order when actor Jeff Goldblum made the comment on the show, "My Mom always told me, Rejection is God's form of Protection." I stood there for a moment and just let that soak in. It got me thinking about the times in my life where I might've felt rejected and how it really turned out for the better after.
I think of relationships that've failed and how I was crushed at the time and sometimes I'm still a little hurt over it. I know deep down it's for the best but it still hurts.
Like when I got divorced. Even though I asked for it, I still felt rejected because my ex husband didn't even try to make it work. I felt rejected both physically and mentally from him. Now, we're divorced and he's getting remarried...and I'm doing my thing but, deep down I know that I would not be happy if I were still married to him.
I needed to feel loved and appreciated. I wanted to feel like I was an equal when really I was made to feel all his business dealing and things he had going on were more important than what I had to say or do. I do believe people can change. But after being divorced for 3 years he still treats me the same. Unimportant.
How about moving here to Milwaukee and dating someone here. I was into him. I had so much fun with him. But, apparently I required more attention then what they wanted to give. So we broke up and he started dating someone 2 states away. Was she prettier? NO! Was she funnier? NO! Did she have a better personality? NO! Was she better than me in the getting it on dept.? DEFINITELY NO!!! I know that for a fact. She is convenient. My feelings still are a little hurt when I happen to see them and I look at her and think "Really? You broke up with me so you could hang out with a girl that SUCKS!?" "Wow it just isn't fair."
Although, if we still dated, I can see myself unhappy because I still wouldn't get the attention that I deserve. I don't want to come in line behind work, his working out, his friends, his trips off with the boys and his drinking out on the weekends. I would like to be a little higher on the totem pole and I 'd like for him to make me feel important and wanted. The rejection saved me from being unappreciated in the long run.
I know rejection is a form of protection when it comes to jobs too. After "The Mathew Blades in the Morning" Show went away, I felt unwanted. I was not wanted on the air on the new station and was told that wasn't going to happen either. At first I was a little bothered but, after awhile I realized that this was a blessing. Here's why...because I wouldn't be happy doing that kind of show. Just announcing..."That was George Michael...here's Pink!" I would be so uninspired.
About that time they gave me permission to look for another job. Again, I could've been offended that they didn't want to keep me around but instead I started hitting the pavement so to speak, and started sending out my aircheck. Randomly emailing program directors at stations that I would like to work at. Then one day I sent out my package and 3 days later I got a call...from HOUSTON, TX!!!! Now if the rejection that I experienced never happened...the biggest job of my career may never have happened.
Another rejection moment is when I auditioned for Cousin's Subs. They were looking for a spokesperson to go around Wisconsin and find people to enter the Mooing contest for the State Fair. Which required you to travel around Wisconsin, Friday's and Saturday's for 3 months. I thought I was would perfect for the gig.
I get to the interview and I wasn't really prepared. I was all dressed from TV that day. I had on tons of makeup on. Then when it came time to audition, I personally feel I stunk. Needless to say I didn't get the job. At first I was really disappointed but after a month or so I realized, that if I would've got that little gig, I wouldn't be able to fly down to Houston for my interviews and audition for that job, because all my weekends would be all tied up with MOOING.
So now I really believe when I get rejected, there's a good reason or it. I just may not know what that reason is for awhile.