As you know I went back home for Christmas. My ex-husband just moved back to Portland recently. Well, call me crazy but I thought while I was in town maybe we could meet up and I could see one of our dogs Boodaful. I haven't seen her in over a year. At first the ex seemed receptive to it. Although, he said he'd have to run it by the 24 year old GF. OK...whatever I'll wait.
So, it comes down to the day I leave for Portland. I call him and ask if I can meet him the next day to see the dog. He sends me back a txt message to say that I couldn't see the dog because the GF was in town. I said, "I thought you were going to run it by her, we can meet at a Starbucks and she can come too, I just want to see the dog." His response..."why don't you just relax! and stop putting me in a bad situation!"
I've just had it!!! I've NEVER met this girlfriend of his. In fact, til today I had no idea what she even looked or what her name was. Yet, this girl HATES ME!!! I wouldn't doubt it if she has gone through our wedding pictures cut out my face and put hers in its place!!! I'm serious! The girl lives in my old house, has one of my dogs, has never met me but hates me!!!! The jealousy or whatever you want to call it is unreal!!!! And has to STOP!!
I don't understand it!! I know she's young. So I guess she has 1 excuse for her immaturity but, honestly the possessiveness, the cattiness, the jealousy, the hatred...WHY? Because I'm the ex wife? I know that my ex husband never tolerated that type of behavior in me, in fact when I was 21 and he would go to strip clubs with his guy friends, I sometimes would get a little insecure about it. You know, he actually told me that I was crazy, and to get over it! So why does he accept and tolerate this in her??
All I wanted to do was see my dog. I was actually cool with meeting her maybe grabbing a coffee with the 2 of them with the dog there...Heck...we don't need coffee, I don't care!! I just wanted to give my dog Booda a little love.
What if the dogs were human children? Would she act like this? Would she insist that the kids call her mom? Would she be like a dog herself and mark her territory? She already is acting like a dog in that matter. I know that being divorced stinks at times and I'm sure dating a person that is divorced sucks at times but seriously, HE'S GOT AN EX-WIFE!! Deal with it! And if dating a guy that's divorced makes you too uncomfortable then you need to find something that doesn't make you uncomfortable.
I want people that read this to know that I 100% do NOT want him or that relationship back! He didn't treat me the way I should be treated and I need to find someone that treats me the way I want and deserve to be treated. I know I sound angry in this blog but, I NEVER would treat someone like this. When I've dated other people who had ex's and they would still call and I would tell them that it was cool if they talked. Because I know how I would feel if I was on the receiving end of that. I'm feeling it now and it sucks.
I will end with this. I know we don't have human children (thank GOD) and a lot of people think that if they're not human...just move on. Well, my dogs are my kids. I miss them. I think that I'm a pretty cool ex wife. We ended things on a good note and we were friends until GF24 had to start acting CRAZY...yeah i said it...CRAZY! I hope that one day she realizes how easy she has it and comes to grips with the fact that I'm not a threat. I never was a threat and never will be!
Maybe my ex needs to tell her just to relax and stop being crazy! Oh but that would be too easy!