We all flake out on things from time to time. We make plans with someone and then at the last minute we cancel for whatever reason but usually it's just because you don't want to keep the plans we made.
Some people are bigger flakes than others. Some people don't even know they're flakes and well...some people just don't care that they are. I know several types. In my life I've encountered both men and women that are. Funny thing is, when people flake out on me it's usually because they get a better offer. Sometimes, I get very little warning too.
For instance, when I've encountered guys that are flakes they wait til the last minute to spring on you the change of plans. Like a time where I had my boyfriend coming to visit me from out of state and he canceled a few hours prior to his flight to tell me that he wasn't coming. Or the time I had a date go to a baseball game with me and my friends and about a half hour before he left the game early is when he told me that he had to go in such an all fired hurry. Just so you know I don't speak to either one of those people anymore.
What makes me mad is when people flake out on you and leave you high and dry. Plans to go to dinner, shopping, hanging out, whatever it is, these are all things you could do by yourself sure but, you had plans to do them together.
Girls are flakes a lot of the time. I have one friend that flakes out on me I would say 40% of the time. The reasons could very. Anything from a better offer, a better offer from a guy to, at the last minute changes their mind.
Maybe part of it I just need to get over. Because sometimes there's nothing you can do about it. Although, what I find interesting is that I feel like people flake out on me all the time and don't really feel bad, but if I did the same to them...I'd hear about it for sure!!!! And when people flake out on me I rarely say something because I don't want to rough up the waters.
I know that there are things I don't really want to do, or it's slightly inconvenient for me but I do it anyway because I said I would do it.
So how do you deal with the flake? If it's the flake that does it all the time then it's easy, You make plans with them and just expect they'll call with an excuse. But the person that flakes out half the time is tricky. How do let them know it bothers you?