How many times have you heard that line? I feel like I hear it all the time. In every relationship I've ever been in I was told that line. I always thought that once you were in a relationship with someone whether it be exclusive or not, married or not, that you'd want to spend time with that person. Am I missing something here?
I think one of my faults when I'm in a relationship is that I'm too giving. I give too much of myself, my heart, my time, and make myself too available. With the major relationships that I've had I was always the more giving. When I dated Sean, he had a lot of stuff going with his brother so his time and focus was with him. Our relationship was a long distance one where about every other week we'd travel back and forth from Texas to St. Louis and vice versa. Well, there were a couple times that at the last minute Sean would call and cancel his trip to see me because he was so busy. I of course wanted to see him, so being the giving person I am I would rearrange things to see him that weekend or the next. What's the point? I guess what I'm trying to say is that I would be too giving and make time so that I could spend it with him.
I've noticed this trend lately that men I date, always seem to be so busy. Not that I sit there and say "Hey Hey we need to hang out...!!" like some annoying pest, but it almost seems that they have this attitude that they'll fit me in when it's of convenience to them and that if i don't take this one time offer...then well...I'm S.O.L.
I've always heard in the world of dating, you should always act like you're so busy. Although, at some point if you're on the flip side of that doesn't it get old? I know that I really don't like the feeling I get when someone always treats me like I'm on the back burner. There's one thing to be said about the chase but, at the same time when do you get to stop chasing and get a bigger piece of someones schedule? Will I ever find a person that is willing to fit me in?
Is being so busy a good excuse? Or is it just that...an excuse?