I'm not sure what exactly sparked me writing this blog but I was thinking recently about guys and how they always seem be on the prowl. When girls do this people think we're desperate and on a man hunt. When guys do it, they are in my opinion looking to hook up. And the ones that are looking for someone to date no one ever tells them "You'll find someone when you least expect it."
In about a week it'll be 1 year since Sean and I broke up. And for most of that year I've been very single. With of course the exception of Mr. X for a few months. A few weeks ago when I talked to Sean we talked and compared dating stories since we broke up. Neither one of us having a ton of success. Although, he has dated a lot more girls than I have guys. One thing he said to me is that I need to go out and just date.
For Sean, even though i think he's truly a independent guy, I'm not sure if he ever really has NOT had a girl around. I think Mr. X is the same way. I think he had something going with someone else a week after we broke up. My ex-husband was the same way. Always had some young girl around to make him feel better about himself. I think most guys feel the need to have some sort of girl around. If only for the night.
When I'm in a relationship I like to get attention from the person I'm dating. When I'm not dating someone, sure, does the random male attention feel good? Yeah, but after a while of getting nothing but duds it gets boring....or at least dissatisfying. Guys on the other hand, always need a girl around. Or at least guys always need female attention. May she be a hook up for the night or a girl they think they could date they waste no time getting back into the swing of things. Now not to say there wouldn't be guys who have been single without much action but let's face it...guys like being on the prowl for the next kill!!!
One of my very good friends dated a guy for 3 months. He broke it off with her out of the blue. (Sounds familiar) Well it took her 10 months to even get ready for a hookup. She was not ready. Where a guy in the exact same situation (and i know one) the very weekend after she broke things off with him...he's making out with some girl in a bar's bathroom!!!! AWESOME!
Why do girls always get classified as the needy ones when clearly it's NOT at all true. When Mr. X and I broke up he later told me that I basically required more attention than he could give. He told me I wasn't needy though..which is good. Problem is, since the break up, he has been on the prowl for a girl like a run in a cheap pair of pantyhose! Hookups, dates...you name it. Not sure if he's successful with the dates but the hookups well...let's not think about it.
So why so guys feel the need to always a girl around? Is it to fill a void? Is every man deep down like a old man that just likes having women around? (I know one of those too) Why is it that women get labeled needy and guys get the label as playing the field? If a girl were to play the field like a guy she not only would be called slutty but also desperate!!!Hmmm.....