The other day when I met with out Life coach Melissa Malueg she asked me how I thought my divorce affected me. I never really thought about it before but I do know that I am a little self conscious about it. I can't really explain how I'm self conscious about it other than now that I'm back in the dating world I wonder if guys look at me differently...especially if they've never been married. I never dated a guy that was divorced but I have dated several guys that were engaged and I never thought twice about their failed relationship.
When I dated Sean and I would spend time with his family and I would get weirded out if I had to mention my ex for some reason. Like when they asked who my dog stayed with while I was there visiting them. Although, I never thought they were the type of people that would judge me I just wondered if they had some sort of disapproval.
I know that with some of the recent people I dated who were all engaged at one time or another, some were completely cool with my being divorced; while others I wonder if they deep down had a problem with it. They never said they did but, I wonder if there a was a lack of them taking me serious because of my divorce. Almost like they didn't want to consider me as a possible mate because I had been married before.
I probably look way to into it but, I wonder if anyone looks at divorce as a strike against you? I know I would probably worry if I dated a guy that was married a couple times or even engaged a few times, but if it's only once I probably wouldn't think twice.
So do you think people look at divorced people differently? Granted I don't have children, so that may make it a little different for me, but I wonder if I've been judged because I maybe got married a little too young and things didn't work out as planned.
Does being divorced really even matter to people? And if it does...why does it?