REMEMBER THIS GUY???
Brad Womack the Texas hottie from Austin, that broke not just one girls heart, but broke two. We all felt for Deanna, the girl that is now the current Bachelorette. There stood Brad as he told Deanna what a great girl she was but he had to let her go. Even on the reunion show he told her what a great catch she was and that he think of her everyday. When she asked "So you think I'm all those things and you think of me all time but you're still willing to let me go?" He said YES!
How is that possible? Here's this great girl with all these great qualities and he would let her leave and go without a fight. I remember watching that and Deanna didn't get it then and I personally don't get it now! That sounds awfully too familiar.
This is the 2nd time that in recent months that this exact same thing happened to me. When Sean broke up with me he told me that I was such a great catch. I can remember him saying as I'm crying my eyeballs out, "Erin you're so beautiful, you're so funny, you have so much going for you." The only thing I could say was " I'm all those things but you still don't want to be with me.
Then the latest guy I was dating sounded like an echo of Sean. We had only been dating 2 months. Things were going pretty good. We spent a good amount of time together, we were in the stage of getting to know each other. Now granted, he was training for this race he was doing so he was a little preoccupied. Things were going good. He bought me flowers, with a sweet note and then a week later...BAM...WE'RE DONE!!!
What happened? What did I do?
Now some people that don't know the situation may have some opinions. Let me share some of things he thought and told me. He told me that he felt so comfortable around me, that he has fun with me, he loves hanging out with, I'm fun, I'm really funny, I'm smart, I'm beautiful and we click. Yeah he said that we CLICKED!!
So what happened to all of that? He tells me that all of that is true but something changed. HOW? How could it change so quickly?
Maybe men and women are different. I think men wait for the skies to part and angels to sing to fall in love with someone, where women....we just fall. Now I'm not saying I was in love with this guy...not at all. I will say I was actually really starting to like him.
All of the girls I know say that if they found a guy that treated them good, had their stuff together, made them laugh, they were attractive to them, they had a good time together, and most importantly they CLICKED...they would keep them around!!! I just don't get it. If I found all that in a guy I would want to see how things would go and make that person a part of my life...and I certainly wouldn't let them go.
It's not often that you find someone with all the qualities that you want in someone, especially being attracted to them AND YOU CLICK!!! All of that, we had! So how do you really decide something so big in a week? Why can't you just see things how go? Why is everyone in such a rush to decide their future? So why if you found someone with all of that would you let them go?
I know that Deanna didn't understand, and I don't understand. I feel like I'm failing at attracting good men. I know I like good guys...but the good guys keep breaking my heart.