I'm a person that sometimes lets the little things bother me when I should just let them go. Sometimes that is easier said than done. When people say things that are hurtful I dwell on them. When people don't like me I have a hard time with it. When a situation gets out of hand, I don't feel good until things are smoothed over.
For instance, there's a particular person I went on a few dates with. When I see him around town it's OK. But then something he says gets under my skin...almost like he tries to piss me off. He always ahs to get the last word...very mature BTW! I mean this guy will send me random text messages telling me that I'm bitchy and write me messages under different names in response to my blog and say things like "No wonder you can't get a guy." Now some people may just blow it off and consider the source. I let it bother me.
Now granted, I don't dwell on it too much but it still is hurtful. Funny thing is, I think he thinks it's funny! Not sure how being emotional abusive is funny! I think he's a guy that likes to tear you down and then look like a hero when he tries to build you up again. Like I'm not going to notice the part of him that's an A$$-h*L#!!
Another instance, when I call someone that I really want to talk to and they don't all me back. I wonder stupid things like "Oh why aren't they calling me back?' "Do they not like me?" Most people would probably think..."Oh they must be busy." And that's another thing, If someone doesn't like me that bothers me. Most people would probably chalk it up to a matter of it being their loss. But I take it personally.
Why can't I learn to let things just roll off? Why do I take things so personally and to heart when I could have a lot less stress if I didn't sweat the small stuff? So how do you learn to just lets things not affect you?