Ever since I was a little kid I have been career motivated!! I knew from the time I was in the 1st grade that I wanted to be on TV or the radio. I had dreamed of being a newscaster as a little kid. Over the course of time, I decided I would be better suited displaying my personality. I wanted to see how far I could go with my career. A couple of years ago I decided that if I really wanted to take my career to the next step I needed to do morning radio...which is what I do now.
I always thought that a guy would appreciate a girl who has goals and knows what she wants in life and knows where she wants to go. I've decided that MEN DON'T CARE!!!
I know I'm not perfect. I know that I could have more money saved up. I could do more charity work. I could this and that...in the end GUYS DON'T CARE!! You could be a girl serving fries at McDonald's and a guy would ask you out! You could be in debt up to your eyeballs...guys don't care. You could have no motivation but just be pretty and guys would like you.
My friend Melissa and I were talking about how we don't get it! We are both have great careers. We have our own money and make decent money. We pay for own things, we aren't in debt. I think we're pretty funny, we're not horrible to look at, and yet, none of it even matters!! THE PACKAGE DOESN'T MATTER!!!
I was talking to a guy last night and he said that "If a girl has her stuff together it's just an added bonus." He would know too. One of the girls he recently dated had a less then desirable job...yeah! I don't need to say more. And here's me...another girl he had dated and yet he said I was "too put together" "Maybe you should tone it down." So what, I should dress like a slob, quit my career so that I'm an easier catch?
So why do I even bother?? What is the point of me trying to be this complete package..when a guy would just as soon date you as the girl that cleans his trash can at work? Since when is it a bad thing to try to be THE COMPLETE PACKAGE? The girl that has it all!
It's funny, I was talking to my ex-boyfriend Sean the other day and we briefly talked about how dating for me here in Milwaukee is hard. He had mentioned that he had gone on some dates but it's nothing that was ever going to go anywhere. Then I said how he had it a lot easier...He lives in a much bigger city(Dallas)with a lot more to choose from. And guys just want a girl that's cool and cute. Now he's a little different bacause he's pretty picky...actually really picky. I digress anyway, where as a girl looks for the complete package in a guy. He needs to have goals, a decent job, attractive, good to you, and depending on if you're a gold digger or not...you want the superficial stuff too.
Girls typically want the guy that looks good on paper...when all a guy cares about is if she looks good. Sometimes I don't think you need to be cute...maybe just the path of least resistance. I mean I'm sure that guys want you to be somewhat of a challenge...just as long as you don't challenge their masculinity! Remember, guys like to be in charge right?
In the end, I feel like you could be a mindless twit, just getting by...but as long as your cute you'll be fine. And the more you have your stuff together the more it hurts you. This mentality sends women back 150 years!!!
If I'm wrong and there are men that appreciate a driven woman with a plan and a passion I'd love to be set straight on this!!!