I've noticed a recent change in my social/dating life. I'm becoming "THE BUDDY"! I mean for Pete's sake...WE MIGHT AS WELL CHEST BUMP...& SMACK EACH OTHER ON THE BUTT LIKE SPORTS PLAYERS!
Now I will say that I still try to maintain a friendly relationship with the ex-husband and ex-boyfriend. I talk with both of them from time to time. Getting and giving updates about life, work and whatever.
I really noticed this trend a couple weeks ago. As you know I'm starting to get myself on the dating scene with little results. But now, some of he guys I've gone on dates with I'm now "THE BUDDY". In some cases I don't mind. In fact, 2 of the cases I think we are much better suited as friends.
I had gone a few dates with a guy named "Roy". Our dates were fine, he's a nice guy. Maybe a little shy at first. Once he opens up a little he kind of funny. So, at about the same time we both decided that we would be better friends. And I can honestly say that we are just friends. I actually think we are really good friends. He has listened to me cry, he has heard my complaints about dating, we go to workout at the same time, and now have tried going to church. We talk and just shoot the sh@t. It's really nice.
Next, is a guy I met off Match.com...let's call him "Dr. Pepper" . Again a nice guy. I think part of the reason this didn't work is I thought he might've wanted to move faster than I was ready. I didn't talk to him for a few weeks and then I got a call right before my trip to Paris. He wanted to wish me luck. (which was very nice) Since then I've talked to him several times. He called me last week to get my opinion on him taking a job in Chicago. He told that the dating scene is a little rough for him and wanted to get my thoughts. He ended up taking the job and is putting his house on the market and if it doesn't sell wants me and my friend Melissa to rent it! SO MY BUDDY AND POSSIBLE LANDLORD!
This is maybe a little different because this guy I believe thinks of me as a sister. I actually had a dream that he did...shortly before I broke it off with him. I just started getting this feeling that he wasn't that into me and to honest, he wasn't treating me that well anyway. So I put the kabash on it. Since that has happened, we've talked several times, and even for several hours. He has even tried giving me dating advice.
Now this guy, I've never actually gone on any dates with. I'm the girl he wants to meet up with on the weekends while we're all out. I know that he's attracted. He's even told he is/was. Although, I'm not the girl that he ever takes out on a date. I'm the girl that he meets up with in group settings. I know( he's just not that into me!) I get it. It become perfectly clear the other day when I realized how much he was trying to impress this other girl. I also started noticing that he treated my friends just like me. But...then he'd send text messages that would suggest otherwise. Now, I could've read too far into all of it but every girl I know and guy that I've asked has agreed that his txt's were flirtatious and they would've taken it the same way as a I did!
I feel a little foolish on this one but whatever! You live, learn, and move on. There's always another fish coming up stream. (Does that sound like Dr. Phil?)
I know that it is get to have friends. I've meet some great girlfriends since I've moved here...and a lot faster than I thought I would. I very pleased with my girls...Melissa, Colleen, Rebecca, Kristie(my landlord), Erin, Jessica. I've met Tamra, Tara and I'm sure just more to come.
I just find my new found "BUDDY" persona a little weird. Why do I end up being "THE BUDDY"? Am I just that girl? I don't know where to begin with this situation. I don't even know what questions to ask.
I know...I'll ask the guys...What makes the girl end up being "THE BUDDY"? Is this a compliment or a slap in the face? Like you're good enough to hang out with but just good enough to date?