Has there ever been someone that you've been intrigued by or interested in, but had no idea where you stand in their mind? You're not sure if they're interested at all or if they've put in you in the "Friend Zone."
I've been in that situation. There was a guy that I guess you can say I was friends with. He's is someone that I found extremely attractive. We didn't hang out a lot, but we would text every once in awhile to keep in touch. I had drinks with him and got caught up on stuff. You know the usual. We talked about jobs, dating, his ex, my ex...blah blah blah. As I sat there listening to his stories I couldn't help having a voice in my head ask questions. "Why is this guy hanging out with you? Does he find you attractive? Does he think of you as just a friend? Are you just like one of the guys?" These were all questions I had spinning in my head for the rest of the night. I remember leaving that night saying to myself, "What just happened?"
Most of the conversation was two people sharing stories and sharing opinions. There was a little bit of flirty talk, but nothing that was obvious as to indicate if he was interested or not.
One thing that I remember was when he talked about his ex. She really did a number on him. Despite the fact that he broke up with her, he still kind of missed her. Almost like if she promised to change her ways he'd take her back. However, I think if that ever happened, it would be because it was convenient and comfortable for her.
After hearing about her and some other people he dated a little, I couldn't help but feel a little sad. Like "What is it about these chicks that he'd date them, but not me? Why are they so special?" That's when I had the voice in my head start asking about being in the fabulous "friend zone."
What did I want from him? I'm not sure. I do know that I want a lasting relationship. Was I wanting that from him? Not necessarily. I think I just wanted him to consider me as someone he'd date. He didn't need to make me his girlfriend or anything. I would've liked to be an option as a person he could possibly date. Someone that he could see potential in dating vs. a girl he just wanted to bang. Or a girl that he considered to be a good girl friend, but that's it. "Oh Erin? She's just a cool chick."
I guess I would've liked the chance to see what could happen. Especially, after hearing stories about how he got screwed over, it would've been nice to prove that I was not the typical girl he was used to. I mean who wouldn't want to be considered? Do you want to be the last kid picked on the playground for that kickball team?