DEVELOPING THE "F#@* YOU" ATTITUDE!

I'm a girl that wears her heart on her sleeve. I tend to worry about things I shouldn't. Think about things too much and over think things too much. With that being said, I've had several people tell me recently that I need to develop a "F--- YOU!" attitude.

I've often taken this being "forever single" thing a little hard. Wondering if it's me. Wondering if there's something wrong with me. Wondering how and what do I need to do to fix myself if there indeed is something "broken." Hence, why I take things a little hard and over analyze.


I had someone recently send me a nice message about having confidence and self-esteem. 2 things I know I could work on. I think a lot of times since I'm out going and rambunctious that people think that I have a super fabulous self-esteem. When really, I probably use that as my defense mechanism. Crack jokes and act wacky so at least they're laughing at me in a different way.

One thing that this person touched on was basically a lot of things I worry about or get sensitive about, I shouldn't. For instance, when I get bothered that a guy doesn't respond back the way I wanted, it probably has nothing to do with me. Or why do I care what people think of me? Screw them. When I tend to let it bother me that they didn't text back and wonder if it's because of me.

I was talking to a girl I work with about something that bothered me and yes there was a guy that was the source. It probably seemed so small to her and most people, but it was something that hurt my feelings a little. After I get done venting and asking her what she thought about it, she told me a couple things that I needed to hear.

First, "The guy is a douche, and you need to stop thinking he's so great." She also told me that I need to think of 3 reasons why he's not so great. Second, She told me, "Erin you need to get a F--- YOU attitude and not let things bother you so much." That is something I've always needed to work on.

So how do you develop this "F--- YOU attitude?" How do you go from the girl that gets bothered if you don't respond back, to the girl that pulls a Mike "The Situation" and doesn't give a crap if they like this package or not. Screw you if you don't call me! Screw you if you don't want to date me! Screw you if you're lame!! Screw you if can't see that I'm STONE COLD ERIN FRICKIN' AUSTIN!!! God...that felt pretty good!

DO ALL MEN THINK THEY'RE GOOD LOOKING?

Now follow me on this topic because I may go in a couple of directions.
First direction: Does every good looking guy know that they're good looking? And does every guy think they are good looking?


The male ego is a funny thing. Most men I think have a very high self esteem. I can only think of a couple men where they're either self-conscious or lack confidence. Where as a woman, we tend to always either be self-conscious or have a low self esteem in some way, shape, or form. Sure, there are women that think they're hot and their shiz doesn't stink, but most of the time they lack confidence somewhere.

I bet if you were to ask most guys how they rate themselves on a scale of 1-10 they would rate themselves closer to 10. Where if you were to ask most women they'd probably rate themselves lower and then pick out what they don't like about themselves.

For instance, say there's a good looking guy like Ryan Reynolds. Does he ever sit at home and look in the mirror and think that he's ugly? PROBABLY NOT! However, if he did...I'd love to know.



Now when it comes to women, I can think of so many girls that pick themselves apart. When these girls are pretty girls. Yet for some reason...and I know I'm guilty of this, we look ourselves over with a fine tooth comb and down play our attributes.

For instance, I know I don't look like the back end of a horse however, I also don't classify myself as a 10. Maybe on a good day I'd say I'm a 7-8. I just think that a guy that's a 8-10 knows it and has no self esteem issues whatsoever.

I was just thinking of the good looking guys that I've come across and all of them seem to outwardly KNOW that they're good looking. Almost like they know that they could get any chick they want.

Now, let's talk about the guys that are average looking. A lot of these guys tend to think they're pretty hot stuff as well. For example....


This guy sent me an email on MATCH.com a year or so ago and he posted this picture on his profile. Obviously he thought he was pretty hot stuff standing there in his underwear.

Now I give him snaps for not caring what people may think, but really??? Did he honestly think this was attractive?


I guess the moral of the story is I know a lot of pretty girls that don't think so highly of themselves but, I sometimes wonder if every guy "thinks" they're hot and the guys that are pretty hot...know it.

Do guys ever lack self confidence?