Everyone enters a relationship with some sort of baggage. Unless of course you're dating an infant. We all bring some piece of luggage along for the ride. In some cases they bring "pieces" of luggage.
I know that I have baggage that I carry along in my dating travels. My divorce is probably the most obvious piece. Not only does the title of divorce itself have a negative connotation, but the emotional scars are baggage as well.
After I got divorced and started dating Mr. Dallas when it came time to meet his family I was very nervous. Even though his family was super sweet and so nice to me, I was afraid to ever say anything about being divorced for fear they would look at me a tainted goods. Now I'm not embarrassed of it. I'm not proud of it. However, it is what it is and I can't change it.
The emotional scars that we carry from past relationships are a big one. Once you get your heart stepped on a lot of times you're afraid that the next person will do the same. I have a girlfriend that was cheated on by her fiance and to this day she fears that any guy that she dates will do the same. I have to say I understand.
A type of baggage that I don't carry but also don't want to date something with is KIDS! I know men for years would not date a woman that had kids, now more and more women are steering clear it the baby mama drama.
I always had a rule that I would not date a guy with kids. People said I was being too judgemental and not giving people a chance. So, I opened up and went on a few dates with a guy with kids.
The guy was a great dad. The mom took off and left the kids with dad to take care of. He was complete Mr. Mom. He took the daughter to cheer practice and he took the son to his sports practice. All of this while having a full-time job and being a workout freak.
The problem for me was I came from a marriage where all I had to compete with was a job and I never was more important. Where dating a guy with kids there's more going on.
With life and relationships there's a "totem pole of importance." With my ex the totem pole was Himself, Job, Dogs, and then me. When you date someone with kids that totem pole gets a little lower for you. It's him, job, kids, the ex(baby mama), and then you. The reason I put the baby mama in there is because I can't tell you how many times I've heard the Baby mama says "Jump' and the guy says "How High?"
I know that there are great men out there with kids, I'm just not sure that's something I'm comfortable with.
What is the worst baggage that you think the opposite sex brings to the table? Is it the kids, the baby mama, the ex, mommy issues, or financial issues? We all have an experience that makes us answer this in different ways. What's your answer?