Wednesday, July 13, 2011


Men have been doing it for younger women. I mean, look at Hugh Hefner, Donald Trump, or that creepy actor that just married the 16 year old girl. Yeah, men in powerful positions and the guy next door have always had a fascination with the much younger woman. So is it ok for women to start robbing the cradle so to speak?

I'll admit, I have a much younger guy barking up my tree at the moment. When I say much younger, yes he has a drivers licence! And yes he's old enough to vote! However, he's still at least 10 years younger than me.

At first, I thought that this guy was crazy by trying to go after me. I even told him that he should not be talking to me. Still, the lil critter was persistent and kept wanting to hang out. He even made nice suggestions of things we could do. Needless to say, it was slightly refreshing to have a guy that actually wanted to make plans with me versus the guys I seem to meet which squeeze me in when they can and act as though I'm always an inconvenience.

I mean here's a guy that despite his age and lack of worldly experience is doing things to impress me and get my attention. Like I discussed in my "Are Men Lazy?" blog, guys haven't really tried with me since Mr. Dallas. And I'm not talking fancy dinners either. For instance, lil critter bought me some flowers when I wasn't feeling good. Then he went to the store to make me some soup when I was sick. He even took me recently on a picnic complete with cheese, crackers, wine, and a blanket. It's something so thoughtful. And you know what? He came up with the idea. And may I add, it's something that didn't cost a lot.

Granted, I know that he's a bit young and has a lot of living left to do and still so much to learn. However, is it wrong that I'm enjoying the attention? Is it bad that I'm enjoying the flattery if it all? LBS (let's be serious) here, who would'nt love the fact that some hot younger guy thinks you're sexy and thinks you're the shiz? I mean guys have been doing it for years with the arm candy.

I realize that a older woman and a younger guy is against popular thinking. Trust me, people at my work are already talking behind my back. I also know this won't last forever, but is it wrong to just enjoy it? Isn't it about time that an older woman starts letting the younger guy liven her up? If I were a guy, would we even be having this conversation? Probably not!


Anonymous said...

why waste your time if you know it will not last? It seems that you concentrate so much on being, having or men period. Possibly if you didn't think about it to much, you might be able to enjoy the dating life in your right. You will find there are men that you could see it lasting being every thing you have wanted? In a sense, aren't you using him for the attention. It's kinda of selfish don't you think?? would you want some one using you?

Jerry said...

Erin, I dont see a problem with it at all. Just make sure he too realizes that this isnt a "forever" thing... Oh.. and dont get caught "contributing to the delinquency of a minor" by serving him wine! LOL

Anonymous said...

Erin, I don't see a problem with it at all. You should take it for what it is and enjoy yourself. As long as you both are happy, then it shouldn't matter. I'm getting married soon and my man is 9 years younger than me. At first the age did bother me, but he could care less. He is the best guy I ever have been with and treats me very special.I didn't expect anything coming out of it at all and 2 years later we are still together. So, don't look into it so much and have fun. I wish you the best and if it's not him then it'll be someone esle.

Anonymous said...

are you aware that your are rather cruel? first by publishing it, (perhaps he is reading it now), and by you referring to him as lil critter.

Erin Austin said...

To the person that thinks it's rather cruel...Maybe you need to mind your own business!

1. He know that I wrote the blog
2. He thought it was fine
3. He listened this morning to hear it
4. He thought it was hilarious!
5. He knows I call him lil critter
6. And he's again he's fine with it!

Not everyone is as uptight as you. So maybe you need to chill with the "you're so cruel and mean" card!

Anonymous said...

I don't know how old you are, but looking at your picture, I would guess about 35 or so, which means he is like 25, right? I think that's okay. 10 years isn't bad.

Anonymous said...

I'm dating a guy who is 10 and a 1/2 years younger than myself. We've been together almost two years now. Did we think it would have lasted this long? Naw, but we did take things one day at a time and just are enjoying being with each other. For the record, I'm 33 and he's 22.

Anonymous said...

Erin, if you are happy with the way he treats you, don't dwell on his age. Maybe he could teach the guys your age a lesson or two.

Anonymous said...

I guess my first question would be does he feel the same as you? Does he think this is all just for fun, just for now? Or is he looking for something more? I'm thinking if he just thinks its for now maybe he's just the same thing you always seem to attract only in a newer package.

If he's actually looking for something more it might be worth you looking at this a bit more seriously.

There's never anything that says a relationship will last forever but why shoot yourself in the foot.

He seems to be what you're looking for. Just go for it.

Anonymous said...

Erin, please continue doing what EVER makes you happy! You’re not hurting anyone. It’s not illegal. So where is the problem, people? And why does everything have to be “forever”?! Every single thing in life has a shelf life. Get used to it. Nothing lasts forever and why would it have to?

And I totally get why men date younger women and I’m not talking about the clearly obvious physical reasons. It’s the same reasons I like younger men. They don’t have ex-wife and kid issues, they are not dragging shitloads of baggage thru life that they don’t know how to get rid of, they are not jaded, they are energetic and feel like doing things, they don’t constantly talk about their feelings because that’s what their therapist told them to do and so on and so forth.

Go for it. Enjoy it. Nothing lasts forever!

Cedric Katesby said...

(apologies if this is a repost)

Life is short.
If you have what it takes to find a lover that does it for you then more power to you.
As long as it's between two consenting adults then the age gap is a total non-issue.

Collige, virgo, rosas.