I've never been able to figure this out. Seems like everyone plays games but apparently I'm not very good at it. And let's face it. Guys play games just as much as the ladies do. So how does this work? And why do I feel like I'm horrible at it.
Let's give you a little insight on how I used to be and at times probably still am to a certain extent. I feel like I've always been the chaser. Not that I'm really aggressive by any means, but if I like I definitely make myself available.
So if a guy "were" to ask me out, and I'm interested in them, I always seem to try to make myself available. Now if I have plans with my friends I don't cancel, but if there's something else going on, I may try to rearrange it. As much as I try to "play the game" on this one I can't seem to figure out how to be "unavailable."
How about when a you exchange numbers with a guy. I don't want to be the first to text or call. I don't want to come across too in your face. Yet, when I sit and wait for them to txt me or call me I feel like I shouldn't be holding my breath.
It's so funny because most of my girlfriends wait for the guy to call them, and it works. The guys call, yet I feel like if I do that they forget about me. I almost feel like I sometimes need to jump up and down with I sign that says "I'M STILL HERE! NOTICE ME NOTICE ME! I'M FUNNY!"I remember my ex Mr. Dallas after we broke up was giving me dating advice (AWKWARD!!!)in which he said, "Erin, you gotta act like you don't care. When you don't care then the guy comes after you." WRONG!!!!!!
I know this works for my girlfriends. Trust me, when I act like I don't care, the guy usually scurries off like a scared little kid. They fall off the face of the planet.
So no matter if I play hard to get it doesn't work, I play cool, it doesn't work. I play available, it doesn't work. How do these games work for so many other people, but I fail at them just like I did Algebra!!!!???
When I text a guy to see how he's doing am I making myself look pathetic? When I give my number to a guy should I pretty much ALWAYS expect that he'll never actually call it?
No matter how you slice it and dice it, I'm not very good at playing games. I wish I knew the magic formula. And don't get me started on having sex with a guy!! SHEESH!!! You're damned if you do and damned if you don't!!! Are they gonna call you or not???