I was talking with a friend of mine that's in the single boat as well, and we talked about how we're just not meeting anyone that we find interesting. There's just not a lot out there that trips our trigger at the moment. We both meet people all the time, but most of the time the guys that are asking us out are not the guys we need to be talking to. DOUCHE BAG CITY!!!!
There was a guy that I went on a couple dates with when I lived in Milwaukee. We went to a sushi restaurant and the people there made balloon hats for the kids. I thought it would be fun to have them make one and make him wear it. I thought the date was actually fun. At the end of the night he comes to my place and stands in my living room and proceeds to tell me that he didn't think I was "the one."
Fricking really??? ON DATE 2!!!
Was it something I said or did? Was it the ballon animal hat? Actually no...He said it wasn't. He then told me what I think is the lamest thing I've ever heard. He said, that he thinks when he meets the girl he supposed to be with that he'll just know right when he sees her. Like, he really thinks that when he meets "the one" she'll have angels singing around her and stars over her head or something!!! I'M NOT KIDDING!!!
Again Fricking really??
I told him that was ridiculous. He told me not to ruin his thought of what love was supposed to be. Alrighty then.
Now as ridiculous as I think he/that is...I do have to say that I agree that there needs to be a certain amount of chemistry. For instance, when I meet someone I want to date, I want to find them attractive!! IS THAT SO WRONG??? And no...they don't need to look like an underwear model. They just need to be attractive to me.
I can't tell you how many times I sat across from a guy on match.com date half listening to what he's saying because I'm too busy staring at him wondering if I could even see myself making out with him. If I need to stare at you that long...the answer is "this probably will be the last date."
I can think of someone I've met in the last year where I thought, "Who is this guy?" I met him at a work function and he walked up and started talking to me. He sat down and asked me, "So what's your deal?" I remember looking at him getting slightly flustered because he was so adorable. Yet, I replied in typical sassy Erin fashion, "Um...I'm not sure what you mean, but I'm single, I like long walks on the beach and I have a dog." We talked a little bit more before he had to go to another function. But I kinda felt a spark...
You see, he's a person that I met and I thought "WOW! What's his story? Where did he come from?" I'd like to meet someone where I look at them and think that. I'd like there to be an instant attraction.
Some people may think it's shallow but I don't care. Just as much as I'd like to meet someone that I get an instant spark from I don't want to be with a guy that when he sits across from me he needs to think about it. Like, Can I see myself kissing this chick? I want to be an instant for him too. I don't want to be with someone where I'm thinking..."Ahhh he's ok." AND...I'd hate for any guy to think I'm just o.k.
Now if someone tells me, "Erin there's more than just physical attraction." True. However, you do need to be attracted to your mate. Hey, I was with someone once and I'm not saying who, but I never really found them attractive and I was with that person a long time. Of course, I loved them, but never did I think, "Oh I wanna see them naked."
I WANNA SEE MY MAN NAKED AND LIKE IT!!! I wanna look at them and think I can't wait to get frisky. Again, IS THAT SO WRONG??? What? TMI?