Monday, January 3, 2011



Since moving to here to Houston a little over a year ago, I've had my share of 1st and 2nd dates. I've had my share of being hooked up by someone, stealing kisses, you name it. All of this without meeting someone that I really connect with.

What I've noticed is that I may meet guys that are attractive to me, but either they don't get me or there's just not much there. And when I say these guys don't "get me," I mean that they don't understand me or what I'm about. I seem to meet a lot of guys that have NO sense of humour. I hate being being so blunt here, but most of the guys have a personality of a wet washcloth!

I'm a pretty sassy person. I like to crack dirty jokes and I sometimes have a potty mouth. My friends say that I'm one of the funniest people they know and one even said I should have my own reality show. Point is, I never meet guys that can handle ME. Not sure if I scare them off or what the deal is.

I've dated guys that try to change me. For instance, when I dated Mr. Dallas I felt like he had me under a microscope. "Why did you say that?" "What did you ask them?" "How are you going to address these people when you meet them?"

So, in 2011 I hope to meet a nice single guy, that I find attractive, he's a genuinely good person, and is FUNNY!! He needs to find me funny too! Some other things it would be nice for him to have: a decent job, and sex drive.

I know the sex thing maybe a bit much for me to put out there however, I feel that it's incredibly important in a relationship. And after my failed marriage, I've decided that it is going to be one of the top things that we need to be compatible with/on/whatever. If you're going to be with someone for the rest of your life...make sure you like to be with them...if you know what I mean!

And speaking of liking to be with someone. I'd really like to find someone that is my best friend and someone I can learn something from. Something that they're good at and they're willing to share with me and teach me.

I'd like to find a guy with a heart. Maybe a guy with a sensitive side. But not too sensitive because, well I'm pretty sensitive, and if he's more sensitive than I am that might be a little weird. I'd like to have someone that's not afraid to talk about their feelings and if there's something going on they can talk about it without shutting down on me.

Maybe he can have an artistic side. Whether he likes to write, sing, play an instrument, or draw. I think having a creative outlet is important and goes along with being sensitive a bit.

I think one of the last qualities I want in someone is an animal lover. My dog Sexie is a huge part of my life and someone that likes animals shows me that have a heart. A guy that doesn't like dogs is not a guy for me.


Anonymous said...

Not to sound weird, but have you tried like e-harmony or one of those services that matches the personalities? I haven't done this myself, but know a few people who did, and actually got married!! Men who are actually looking for a relationship, not a hook-up, or casual thing.
About the our age, do not have the sex drive anymore like they did when they were in their 20's. Physically, their testosterone is not as high. We are now in our peak and I think we're also more sexually comfortable with ourselves, confident, and experienced than we were in our earlier relationships.
You'll find the right guy,and when you do, you'll know it. He needs to be into you as much as you are into him. If not, there will always be that dumb game going on.
Good Luck Erin,
from a girl who finally found hers after finding herself:)

Erin Austin said...

I actually have given eharmony a try. However, I still have yet to go on a date with a guy from that site.

Part of the reason I haven't gone on a date is because I'm a little burnt out on internet dating. I've been on sites for several years on and off and I'm a little fatigued at the moment.

Deep down I guess I was hoping that he'd pop up out of nowhere.

(I know that's a little silly)