WHY DO GUYS SAY ONE THING AND DO ANOTHER?

After many discussions over the years about men/boys/guys/@$%#, my friends and I have come up with a handful of questions that we never seem to get answers for. Or sometimes we do, but they vary with every guy you talk to.

So here we go!!!

Why do guys ask for your number, but never use it?

This has happened to me more than I care to count, and it happens to my girlfriends ALL THE TIME!! We can't figure it out. Do guys just ask for the number to see if they can get it? Do they ask because they were mildly interested and something else came along? Or this is the one us girls hate to think about, Do they ask us JUST TO BE NICE??

I can think of an instance where a guy asked for my number and he used it for random texting here and there but then just faded off. I wonder, was he just being nice? He didn't need to ask for it. Sad thing is, he texted and it would kind of get my hopes up like he was actually interested. Silly me!


Tied into the that last question...


Why do guys say they're gonna call and don't?


I know ladies have this complaint about guys all the time. I wonder if guys say it as a way to get out of the conversation with you and as ladies we take it too literally.

A couple questions from my facebook friends...


Why do guys continue to waste ur time and keep talking/texting you, only to tell you they aren't ready for a relationship??

Is it because they can't be alone? Is it because they need female attention, so as long as they get some they're fulfilled? Or are they just waiting till the next best thing comes around and then their move on to that girl?

When will a man "Say what he means... And mean what he says"... And this can be in a good or bad way!!

Granted ladies can be fragile and sensitive. We may over analyze a lot. However, we don't need you to sugar coat everything. In the case of a friend of mine. Her boyfriend came up with some lame excuse for wanting to break things off with her. When really what he should've said is, "I'm not feeling this anymore and I want have sex with other women. I need to act shameless for bit."


And along those lines another facebook friend asked....

Why do they say they'll 'protect you from the storm' and then end up cheating on you, when they KNOW you've been cheated on before?!?!?

I've never been cheated on (that I know of), but I can understand this one a bit. I've been hurt in the past and I remember having an ex of mine saying "he'd never intentionally try to hurt me." That may seem like something to hang on to, but notice his word "intentionally." Yeah he broke up with me soon after he said that.


Ladies what things have you wondered about men that had you asking "Why Do Guys Do _______? And for that matter guys if you have some questions as well ask away.

WHY CAN'T WE BE COUGARS?

Men have been doing it for centuries...dating younger women. I mean, look at Hugh Hefner, Donald Trump, or that creepy actor that just married the 16 year old girl. Yeah, men in powerful positions and the guy next door have always had a fascination with the much younger woman. So is it ok for women to start robbing the cradle so to speak?

I'll admit, I have a much younger guy barking up my tree at the moment. When I say much younger, yes he has a drivers licence! And yes he's old enough to vote! However, he's still at least 10 years younger than me.

At first, I thought that this guy was crazy by trying to go after me. I even told him that he should not be talking to me. Still, the lil critter was persistent and kept wanting to hang out. He even made nice suggestions of things we could do. Needless to say, it was slightly refreshing to have a guy that actually wanted to make plans with me versus the guys I seem to meet which squeeze me in when they can and act as though I'm always an inconvenience.

I mean here's a guy that despite his age and lack of worldly experience is doing things to impress me and get my attention. Like I discussed in my "Are Men Lazy?" blog, guys haven't really tried with me since Mr. Dallas. And I'm not talking fancy dinners either. For instance, lil critter bought me some flowers when I wasn't feeling good. Then he went to the store to make me some soup when I was sick. He even took me recently on a picnic complete with cheese, crackers, wine, and a blanket. It's something so thoughtful. And you know what? He came up with the idea. And may I add, it's something that didn't cost a lot.

Granted, I know that he's a bit young and has a lot of living left to do and still so much to learn. However, is it wrong that I'm enjoying the attention? Is it bad that I'm enjoying the flattery if it all? LBS (let's be serious) here, who would'nt love the fact that some hot younger guy thinks you're sexy and thinks you're the shiz? I mean guys have been doing it for years with the arm candy.

I realize that a older woman and a younger guy is against popular thinking. Trust me, people at my work are already talking behind my back. I also know this won't last forever, but is it wrong to just enjoy it? Isn't it about time that an older woman starts letting the younger guy liven her up? If I were a guy, would we even be having this conversation? Probably not!