One thing I was also curious about after having dinner with the girls is do guys sit around and compare notes about girls. Or do they have a little fun with a gal and then tell all their buddies about it? Does that end in High School?
As I sat there and talked with the girls I noticed that there is a weird " 6 Degrees of separation of Kevin Bacon" thing going on here in Milwaukee. As I've said before, 2 of my new girlfriends have somewhat dated the same guy. I've decided that here in Milwaukee though, it's about 2 or 3 degrees of separation. Then we started talking about how this guy is friends with other guys we know and do they sit there and talk about the girls and what went on?
I know us girls totally talk about guys. I mean, we get down to the nitty gritty details! For real! Even as adults, we tell all, but I wonder if guys do the same.
Also, girls have this unwritten rule that they won't go after a guy if a friend of theirs dated or liked him. So do guys go by the same set of rules of do they not care and go after what they want? And would these guys go after a girl if their friend dished the dirt about the escapade they had with her but they weren't interested? Do they think they can get in on it..so to speak?
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Monday, September 24, 2007
ARE GUYS REALLY INTIMIDATED BY GIRLS???
So I'm out tonight with the girls...having dinner and drinks. We discuss how we don't asked out and how guys never seem interested in us. We all have good CAREERS...we are self sufficient, pay for our own stuff, no debt, good looking, funny, not clingy. All good traits...or so I thought! And we aren't being conceited! FYI!
One of the girls said, "Oh guys are so intimidated by girls that have their stuff together here in Milwaukee." WHAT??? WAIT A SECOND??? ARE YOU SERIOUS??? Now I've heard that guys are intimidated by pretty girls...in fact, my ex-boyfriend tells me that I'm such a great package but guys may not ask me out because of what I do or maybe their scared. I always thought this was a cop-out. It was a way for us girls to make ourselves feel better, because guys weren't talking to us or showed no interest. NEVERMIND EVEN ASKING US OUT!
It's funny, as we all sat there we talked about how guys that are soooo not our type have NO problem asking us out or hitting on us, but the guys that we are interested in either just talk to us, never ask us out or simply NEVER call back. That is something I'm quite familiar with. HUMMM!
Anyway, just thought I'd throw that out there. Maybe a guy or 2 can shed a little light on the situation.
One of the girls said, "Oh guys are so intimidated by girls that have their stuff together here in Milwaukee." WHAT??? WAIT A SECOND??? ARE YOU SERIOUS??? Now I've heard that guys are intimidated by pretty girls...in fact, my ex-boyfriend tells me that I'm such a great package but guys may not ask me out because of what I do or maybe their scared. I always thought this was a cop-out. It was a way for us girls to make ourselves feel better, because guys weren't talking to us or showed no interest. NEVERMIND EVEN ASKING US OUT!
It's funny, as we all sat there we talked about how guys that are soooo not our type have NO problem asking us out or hitting on us, but the guys that we are interested in either just talk to us, never ask us out or simply NEVER call back. That is something I'm quite familiar with. HUMMM!
Anyway, just thought I'd throw that out there. Maybe a guy or 2 can shed a little light on the situation.
WHAT TO DO ABOUT "SOLE MATES"?
So this morning on the air we open up a package that I received from the infamous voicemail guy. Inside we found a box with one shoe in it and a note on the outside that read..."Erin, it is bad karma to walk away from a friendship. Reunite the two lost soles with a day of shopping in Chicago. My office, Friday Sept 28th, 1:30."
What in the world??? What is this guy expecting? Is he wanting to go there for the day...spend the night? God forbid!!! Does he REALLY just want to be friends?? I say he is thinking something else.
Now here's the deal. I already have plans for Friday. My friend Rebecca is having a birthday party. So I can't go Friday if I want go to my friends party. Maybe I should show up at 1:30 on Friday and just give him back his shoe. Another thing is, that I'm not interested in dating him. First of all, he admitted that he was dating a girl out of state as well as a few girls here in Milwaukee. So if he's trying to date me as well, being one of 18 million girls on a chain is not cool!!! EWW!
My other thought is, he says he just wants to be friends...but there is not a man on the planet that I've come across that would go these lengths to get a girl as a friend. Am I wrong here??? Which opens a whole new topic about guys and girls being friends.
Now I will give this guy snaps for being creative! If I wanted to date this guy, I would be sold. I would think he really liked me. FYI GUYS...girls love it when guys do sweet stuff to whoo her. It's called courting...you should try it sometime!
So what would you do?? Would you go? Keep in mind I barely know this person. I've really only talked to him once. HELP!!!!
What in the world??? What is this guy expecting? Is he wanting to go there for the day...spend the night? God forbid!!! Does he REALLY just want to be friends?? I say he is thinking something else.
Now here's the deal. I already have plans for Friday. My friend Rebecca is having a birthday party. So I can't go Friday if I want go to my friends party. Maybe I should show up at 1:30 on Friday and just give him back his shoe. Another thing is, that I'm not interested in dating him. First of all, he admitted that he was dating a girl out of state as well as a few girls here in Milwaukee. So if he's trying to date me as well, being one of 18 million girls on a chain is not cool!!! EWW!
My other thought is, he says he just wants to be friends...but there is not a man on the planet that I've come across that would go these lengths to get a girl as a friend. Am I wrong here??? Which opens a whole new topic about guys and girls being friends.
Now I will give this guy snaps for being creative! If I wanted to date this guy, I would be sold. I would think he really liked me. FYI GUYS...girls love it when guys do sweet stuff to whoo her. It's called courting...you should try it sometime!
So what would you do?? Would you go? Keep in mind I barely know this person. I've really only talked to him once. HELP!!!!
Monday, September 17, 2007
WHAT WAS I THINKING?
So over the weekend you might have heard my adventures. Not that I'm proud of these moments. I'm an open book. My boss also thinks of my life as a sitcom, so I share.
Since becoming single in a new city, getting new friends you sometimes do stupid things. Stay out too late, act like you did in college or something like that. Some of these moments you'd like to erase and some are just fun to talk about.
Am I a little embarrassed? Heck yes! Acting like most people do in college is not what I do I my everyday life. Heck...even when I was in college I didn't do this stuff. I was such a good girl! I never went and drank. I worked 3 jobs and went to school full time.
Funny thing is, I have this stupid moment in life and I try to laugh at myself. I'm great at self deprecation. So before you start thinking I'm some heathen and act like a freak show every weekend. Think again. And don't pass judgement. I mean the story from this morning is the 1st and probably last you'll hear of that nature.
Haven't you ever had a stupid moment in life where you think "What was I thinking?"
Since becoming single in a new city, getting new friends you sometimes do stupid things. Stay out too late, act like you did in college or something like that. Some of these moments you'd like to erase and some are just fun to talk about.
Am I a little embarrassed? Heck yes! Acting like most people do in college is not what I do I my everyday life. Heck...even when I was in college I didn't do this stuff. I was such a good girl! I never went and drank. I worked 3 jobs and went to school full time.
Funny thing is, I have this stupid moment in life and I try to laugh at myself. I'm great at self deprecation. So before you start thinking I'm some heathen and act like a freak show every weekend. Think again. And don't pass judgement. I mean the story from this morning is the 1st and probably last you'll hear of that nature.
Haven't you ever had a stupid moment in life where you think "What was I thinking?"
Thursday, September 13, 2007
PARIS FOR CHRISTMAS???
You might have heard me talking about it this morning. I was sitting there the other day wondering about this new "single and in a new city" chapter of my life. I was thinking "How am I going to spend my Holidays?" I have no one in my life, no boyfriend, no husband, and my family isn't the most festive. Actually they're not festive AT ALL! And I wasn't trying to sound like I don't like my family...cuz I do. Let me explain.
Why is my family not festive? That's a story in itself. I'll give you a piece of it. Growing up my family didn't have a lot of money. In fact, as a kid we usually got reduced or free lunches at school because of my families income. I can remember collecting cans to buy the basics. (milk, bread etc.) So when it came to Christmas there wasn't any extra money for a tree or wrapping paper. I think my mom saw the wrapping paper as a waste. So most times we went shopping and picked out what we wanted (if we could afford it) and then out in the car it would be "Well there's your Christmas present." Oh and did I mention that my parents looks like something you'd see in an episode of COPS? Yeah...it's pit. I try to help out when I can.
So back to the other part. When Sean broke things off with me, a week later he took a trip to Germany and Ireland. Now, some the trip was with his family and the other part was by himself. He was gone for like a month or so. Nice. Easy for him to not think about us...he's off in another country...feeling free.
So I thought, " you know I've never been anywhere over seas. I've dreamed of what it would be like at the top of the Eiffel Tower...of course my dream included some romantic moment...but whatever right? I could find a little aspiring artist and buy a piece of artwork. Maybe take a day trip to the D-Day beaches. Or go to wine country. Maybe I should spend Christmas over there.
Of course, I could spend my Christmas with another family but if I'm not spending it with my own or the family of the person in my life...why spend it with some random family? I think it would make me more lonely spending Christmas that way. Everyone has there family, opening their presents and I'm just sitting there with nothing. I would feel so much more empty.
In our business we only get to take time off at certain parts of the year. So I think Christmas is a good time...right? I may not have another opportunity. I just know that I'm a little scared. Scared of doing it alone. I feel like I do so much alone as it is. I don't know the language or anyone there. Although,this experience could be very liberating. I've moved to a new city and taken this job without knowing a soul. Maybe I'll discover something about myself while I'm gone.
Why is my family not festive? That's a story in itself. I'll give you a piece of it. Growing up my family didn't have a lot of money. In fact, as a kid we usually got reduced or free lunches at school because of my families income. I can remember collecting cans to buy the basics. (milk, bread etc.) So when it came to Christmas there wasn't any extra money for a tree or wrapping paper. I think my mom saw the wrapping paper as a waste. So most times we went shopping and picked out what we wanted (if we could afford it) and then out in the car it would be "Well there's your Christmas present." Oh and did I mention that my parents looks like something you'd see in an episode of COPS? Yeah...it's pit. I try to help out when I can.
So back to the other part. When Sean broke things off with me, a week later he took a trip to Germany and Ireland. Now, some the trip was with his family and the other part was by himself. He was gone for like a month or so. Nice. Easy for him to not think about us...he's off in another country...feeling free.
So I thought, " you know I've never been anywhere over seas. I've dreamed of what it would be like at the top of the Eiffel Tower...of course my dream included some romantic moment...but whatever right? I could find a little aspiring artist and buy a piece of artwork. Maybe take a day trip to the D-Day beaches. Or go to wine country. Maybe I should spend Christmas over there.
Of course, I could spend my Christmas with another family but if I'm not spending it with my own or the family of the person in my life...why spend it with some random family? I think it would make me more lonely spending Christmas that way. Everyone has there family, opening their presents and I'm just sitting there with nothing. I would feel so much more empty.
In our business we only get to take time off at certain parts of the year. So I think Christmas is a good time...right? I may not have another opportunity. I just know that I'm a little scared. Scared of doing it alone. I feel like I do so much alone as it is. I don't know the language or anyone there. Although,this experience could be very liberating. I've moved to a new city and taken this job without knowing a soul. Maybe I'll discover something about myself while I'm gone.
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
WHEN A GIRL MISSES YOU...DATING FACTS
I found this on the internet and it made me think
See if you think they are true...and leave me a comment
Some of these really struck me...I put those in bold and some I wonder if they're true...those I have in italic.
Girl facts:
When you catch a girl
glancing at you,
she wants you to look
back and smile
When a girl bumps into your arm
while walking with you
she wants
you to hold her hand
When she wants a hug
she will just stand there
When u break a girls heart
she still feels it when
you run into each other 3 years later
When a girl is quiet,
millions of things are running through her
mind
When a girl is not arguing,
she is thinking deeply
When a girl looks at you with eyes full of
questions,
she is wondering how long you will be
around
When a girl answers, "I'm fine," after a
few seconds,
she is not at all fine
When a girl stares at you,
she is wondering why you are playing games!!!!!!!!!!!
When a girl lays her head on your chest,
she is wishing for you to be hers forever
When a girl says she can't live
without you,
she has made up her mind that you are
her future
When a girl says, "I miss you,"
no one in this world can miss you more
than that
When a girl is mean to you after a break-up
she wants you back, but shes
scared she'll get hurt and knows
you're gone forever
Guy Facts:
When a guy calls you,
he wants to be with you
When a guy is quiet,
He's listening to you...
When a guy is not arguing,
He realizes he's wrong
When a guy says, "I'm fine." after a few
minutes
he means it
When a guy stares at you,
he wishes you would care about him and
wonders if you do
When your laying your head on a guy's
chest,
he has the world
When a guy calls/texts/comments you everyday,
he is in love
When a (good) guy tells you he loves you,
he means it
When a guy says he can't live without you,
he's with you til your done
When a guy says, "I miss you,"
he misses you more than you could have
ever missed him or anything else
someone was in your mind as you read this??
See if you think they are true...and leave me a comment
Some of these really struck me...I put those in bold and some I wonder if they're true...those I have in italic.
Girl facts:
When you catch a girl
glancing at you,
she wants you to look
back and smile
When a girl bumps into your arm
while walking with you
she wants
you to hold her hand
When she wants a hug
she will just stand there
When u break a girls heart
she still feels it when
you run into each other 3 years later
When a girl is quiet,
millions of things are running through her
mind
When a girl is not arguing,
she is thinking deeply
When a girl looks at you with eyes full of
questions,
she is wondering how long you will be
around
When a girl answers, "I'm fine," after a
few seconds,
she is not at all fine
When a girl stares at you,
she is wondering why you are playing games!!!!!!!!!!!
When a girl lays her head on your chest,
she is wishing for you to be hers forever
When a girl says she can't live
without you,
she has made up her mind that you are
her future
When a girl says, "I miss you,"
no one in this world can miss you more
than that
When a girl is mean to you after a break-up
she wants you back, but shes
scared she'll get hurt and knows
you're gone forever
Guy Facts:
When a guy calls you,
he wants to be with you
When a guy is quiet,
He's listening to you...
When a guy is not arguing,
He realizes he's wrong
When a guy says, "I'm fine." after a few
minutes
he means it
When a guy stares at you,
he wishes you would care about him and
wonders if you do
When your laying your head on a guy's
chest,
he has the world
When a guy calls/texts/comments you everyday,
he is in love
When a (good) guy tells you he loves you,
he means it
When a guy says he can't live without you,
he's with you til your done
When a guy says, "I miss you,"
he misses you more than you could have
ever missed him or anything else
someone was in your mind as you read this??
Sunday, September 9, 2007
THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY...DO GUYS EVER FEEL THAT WAY???
This one is just for the guys...
So do guys believe in the one that got away? Or are they always that sure that they made the right decision? Do guys ever regret????
I know my ex husband has said he was sorry for being a bad husband, but I wonder if he really regrets his decision to be inactive in trying. Was he ever really sorry? Or my ex boyfriend Sean, he tells me that I'm such a great catch. How great I am...blah, blah, blah. Does he really think that stuff? And does he really think it was best to break up or does he ever wish he didn't? ANY REGRETS???
I have a guy friend who is a pretty sensitive guy. He writes poems and one poem that he wrote was about a girl that he used to date. It talked about what kinds of things he would do for her if they were still together. How he would treat her and things he would say. It just made me wonder if my friend was the only guy that ever thought this or do lots of guys wonder about that one girl they let slip through their fingers. They let her go because they were thinking of themselves, being stupid because they might not have been ready.
I know girls often miss their exes. We google them...I know. It's stupid but we do it. We always wonder what if...What might be different in our lives. How would it have ended up.
I think ladies always wonder about the future and think about the past.
Guys help me out with this one.
So do guys believe in the one that got away? Or are they always that sure that they made the right decision? Do guys ever regret????
I know my ex husband has said he was sorry for being a bad husband, but I wonder if he really regrets his decision to be inactive in trying. Was he ever really sorry? Or my ex boyfriend Sean, he tells me that I'm such a great catch. How great I am...blah, blah, blah. Does he really think that stuff? And does he really think it was best to break up or does he ever wish he didn't? ANY REGRETS???
I have a guy friend who is a pretty sensitive guy. He writes poems and one poem that he wrote was about a girl that he used to date. It talked about what kinds of things he would do for her if they were still together. How he would treat her and things he would say. It just made me wonder if my friend was the only guy that ever thought this or do lots of guys wonder about that one girl they let slip through their fingers. They let her go because they were thinking of themselves, being stupid because they might not have been ready.
I know girls often miss their exes. We google them...I know. It's stupid but we do it. We always wonder what if...What might be different in our lives. How would it have ended up.
I think ladies always wonder about the future and think about the past.
Guys help me out with this one.
Sunday, September 2, 2007
WHY DO WE FEEL PRESSURE TO BE MARRIED WITH CHILDREN?
I was in Chicago over the weekend and I found something quite refreshing...there were single young people everywhere. Now I'm sure there were people that weren't but it was great. All I know is that it made me feel like I wasn't alone.
I met up with a friend of mine from Texas who I hadn't seen in a few years. She's young, single, a working hard professional girl. She has been on a few dates here and there but nothing special. And you know what, she seems OK with it. I'm not sure if it's because she has a job that keeps her busy or the fact that she has a great set of friends that keep her busy. I just thought that it was awesome that she didn't seem to crack under the pressure of "I NEED A HUSBAND...I NEED BABIES!" Maybe she doesn't get that pressure since she's in such a big city.
Then I started thinking about it...'Are ladies always on a husband hunt?' 'Is it a Midwest thing?' 'why are we so uncomfortable being alone?'
I'm guilty of being uncomfortable alone. I'm trying to be comfortable by myself. I feel like it'll be a while before I date again so I need to be my own best friend for a while.
I know that I will get lonely. Even when I dated Sean. He lived 1000 miles away. He was my boyfriend but I still felt lonely at times. I wish that we lived in the same town but even if I did he was so busy with work traveling that if I did it wouldn't be much different. It might have been cheaper but maybe not.
Anyway, I also think of my best friend Desiree. She lives back home in Portland around a lot of our old friends...who are all married with multiple kids. Every time she meets up with them they always ask "So when are you getting married...when are you having kids?" Talk about pressure. Now she has a boyfriend and things are pretty serious so it looks like she'll walk down the aisle soon.
I just wonder sometimes is it bad that we're not all married by 30? Are we lepers? I know I feel like a leper sometimes now that I'm divorced. I'm not sure if that's a common feeling but I know I feel like that sometimes.
I just wonder if I'm the only one that feels the pressure...especially girls. Do we feel the pressure more and do we put it upon ourselves because we compare ourselves to our friends instead of doing things when they happen.
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