WHY DO PRETTY GIRLS DATE AVERAGE LOOKING GUYS?

Why is it when you see a pretty girl the guy she is with is very average looking guy? Your first thought might be "That girl could do sooo much better." Is it that average looking guys are nicer or are pretty girls settling because they think "Really Hot" guys come with baggage? Do "Average" guys make girls feel safe?

I have a couple friends that are so pretty but the guys they date are average at best. My friends we actually talked about this...How we're attracted to the "Really Hot" guys initially and then settle with the average guys. Why? Part of it is because the "Really Hot" guys you can't really trust. Again you ask why? "Really Hot" guys always seem to know just how hot they are. They play up their looks more than supermodels! You think I'm kidding? Seriously, I can't think of one "Really Hot" guy that doesn't play up his looks with the ladies. They are always looking for the next lady to lay! Can I say that? Is that too harsh? Whatever!

If you know a guy that has EVER...I mean EVER done modeling...he is not to be trusted. Unless of course he is gay. In that case, be his friend because you two could go shoe shopping together.

I digress again.

Also, really hot guys play games!! BIG TIME!!! Since they know how good looking they are, they don't feel they need to settle with one girl. It's almost as though they feel the need for attention from lots of girls.The more girls they have on the line the bigger man they are. Maybe they're over compensating for something. They act as though they have no girlfriend. I'll give you an example. I think of my old trainer. He was VERY attractive, Abercrombie and Fitch model (I'm not kidding), and a huge flirt. He would call me all the time. Flirt like crazy and said he never had a girlfriend. Even when I confronted him that I knew he was dating this girl...he still denied that they were dating!! WHAT?? That's crazy!!!

So I guess I know why some girls date average looking guys, why do you think that is? I know that my friends would tell me that the "Really Hot" guys you couldn't trust and the "Average guy" weren't as threatening. Almost like we thought that the average guy wouldn't cheat! RIGHT!

I guess maybe a better question is why do good looking girls date average looking guys but good looking guys never date average looking girls?...They still date the arm candy!!!

PART 2. DO GUYS BUY LADIES DRINKS AT BARS?

One thing that girls have always bragged about is going out with their girlfriends and getting guys to buy them drinks. this is one thing that I've never done. One reason is that guys never offer to buy me drinks. I MEAN NEVER!!! I actually for the first time had a guy buy me a drink while I was in Vegas. Seriously that was the first time that has happened.

So recently, as I talk to more single ladies they tell me that they never have guys offer to buy them drinks. I go out with the girls from time to time and guys never come up to us and buy us drinks. Funny thing is, I actually was out with a girlfriend of mine in St. Louis and 2 guys came up and started talking to us. My friend was being a complete...you know what...Just treating the guy like crap. I on the other hand, was engaging in conversation...even though I didn't want to, but I did. So what happened, my friend...the b-word..has a drink bought for her by the guy that she was ignoring while I got nothing!!

Why is that? Guys no longer offer to buy a drink for a girl. Does this fall in the same category as guys don't ask girls out to dinner anymore? Are they cheap? Are they figuring out if she is good enough for the drink? And why is it that the girls... like myself who engage in conversation don't get drinks but the girls who are the B-word to guys get drinks bought for them? Do guys like girls who are the B-word?

DO YOU WANT TO DRINK?

I've started to see a new trend in dating. Men no longer ask a girl to dinner, they always ask her out for a drink. Now I'm not bragging but, this has happend several times recently. Do guys use this as a way to measure if you're good enough to spend money on for dinner? Do they feel it's easier this way...less pressure? Have men become cheap and don't want to take a girl out for dinner? Or is it that men no longer feel it's necessary to court a woman?

With the few people in recent days that have asked me if I would go out for a drink none of them I've actually gone out with and met. The biggest reason is that I'm not ready. I'm not ready to start dating someone and go through the entire process of getting to know someone and putting myself out there.(I know...I probably need therapy)

Now I know one person was just asking me out for a drink because he was being nice. It was business. And in fact, he flaked out on the drinks. We never met up. So if was asking me because he wanted more he didn't try too hard.

I digress.

The point is, I've noticed that is an interesting trend with single men these days and I'm not sure why. If you're a single man maybe you can shed a little light for a girl.

HOW TO SAY NO!!!

We talked about it this morning on the air, but I have a hard time saying no to things that I'm not comfortable with. No this doesn't happen in every situation that I'm in...maybe just the ones that catch me off guard and I'm ready for.

For instance, when we all went Chicago for the Morning Show Boot Camp and Mr. Steve wanted to take me on a walk at 3:30 in the morning. I'm a big weenie and couldn't say "Hey I'm really tired...I'm not looking forward to you trying to put the moves on me!"Ha ha! Or just the other day, when I'm out walking my dog Sexie and a guy started a conversation with me and was petting Sexie. He asked I would want to go out for a drink. I was a little surprised...and I said "Ahh sure". Now why did I do that? I'm not ready to date. I don't want to be rude or come across wrong. I'm just not ready to date.

Now I don't want people to think that every time that they might ask me to do something and I say "yes" that I really want to go...because I do. Now I'm probably digging myself in a big hole here.

The funny thing is, that in some areas of my life I can be assertive. Why do I have such a hard time with this?

I WENT TO MY 1ST PACKERS GAME!!!!

These are the lovely ladies I went tot he Packer game with. Jessica, Kristie and another Erin.

The photograhper mader an odd comment during this shot

Chuck Norris Everybody! Now a Bouncer at a bar in Green Bay!

ARE RELATIONSHIPS FAIR AND BALANCED?

I've recently had a few nights out with the girls. Single girls. One married. We all talked about relationships and why the past ones didn't work out. It got me thinking...are relationships fair and balanced?

As I get ready for new adventures in dating(and I'm not ready yet!) I just wonder will it be one sided? Will there be give and take or will there always be one person that puts more in than they get in return?

I know that with my past 2 relationships I felt as if I was more of a giver. Not necessarily monetarily but emotionally. With the 1st one for sure but the last one I think he got bored and quit trying. I know he tried at first, but maybe I was no longer a challenge cuz now he knew I cared. I was no longer exciting for him. Guys try hard to get the girl they don't try hard to keep the girl.

It was interesting as we ladies talked about how and why the relationship didn't work out. He took her for granted, He always worked, he thought the distance was too much...blah blah blah. I started thinking that all of us were unhappy in relationships where we gave more.

I really thought about it. Women wait for the MAN to ask HER out. Women wait for the MAN to call HER back. Women wait for the MAN to ask HER to marry HIM. I could give a lot more examples that follow along the lines with careers and such, but we could be here all day. Now, I know that there are situations where the men are in the reverse roll but it's seems it me there is a book out in stores called "He's just not that into to you" NOT"She's Just Not that into you"

I'm not really sure what the point of me writing this is but maybe it's just to bring up the thought that can a relationship be completely a 2 way street or does one always give more than the other?

I WENT OUT WITH THE GIRLS!!!

So I'm super excited cuz I may have a new partner in crime or 2. I got to talking with Melissa over at TMJ 4 and she mentioned going to "Jazz in the Park". So we went and met some other girls there. One of them was another girl from TMJ 4 Heather and we all hung out...talked...drank. It was good times!!! So I'm on my way to meeting new girlfriends... One small step at a time! YEAH for me!!!

GENTLEMEN PREFER BLONDES?????

As a lifelong brunette I've always felt like the "redheaded stepchild" so to speak when it comes to men preferring blondes. How and why did I come to this conclusion?

Have you ever really met a man that said he PREFERRED brunettes? My answer is no! In my opinion, every man prefers a woman that has big boobs and blonde hair. And any man that says he doesn't is a big fat liar pants!

I think I really noticed this disturbing trend when I watch men check a woman out. I never see them turn their head or a brunette! Or better yet, on Myspace, when there is a guy on there...he'll always have a TON of pics of girls with blonde hair. May they be bottle or natural, they're blonde and the men LOVE them.

I actually have a theory. If you put a blonde with an average face and a brunette that is better looking...the blonde would get more attention. (notice that the next time you're out)

So how do brunettes get themselves noticed and preferred? It's a good question that I would love to get answers to....AND NO..DYING OUR HAIR IS NOT AN OPTION!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!

So the guys decided that I need a little male entertainment for my B-Day!!! I was soo nervous!! I've never had a male dancer before!!!!

LET ME LET YOU IN ON SOMETHING

Lately I've been writing a lot about my past relationships. I've had a ton of great responses. People saying that they know how it feels, they've "been there" and people have just shown support. All of which I appreciate. Although someone recently made the comment that maybe I shouldn't be sooo open. That I sounded "pathetic" At first I thought "maybe they are right?". I probably sound like a some emotional basket case. (Sometimes I probably am)

Then, I started thinking. I am a naturally very open person. Maybe too open. What you see is what you get. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm sensitive and I take too many things personally. That's just me. I've always been the person that if someone didn't like me...I wanted to know why. That is something I wish I could break.

So, for me not to be open, is something that I'm not sure if I can curb. People always say "Don't change for anyone" "Be yourself". So if I started to be more of a private person that wouldn't be me. I will say...there is somethings that shouldn't be revealed. But here is the thing....I'm talking about human feelings...my feelings. I'm not passing out my phone number and address to the public. To me that's private.

BFF's WANTED!!!

When I first started here at 'KTI we talked about how hard it is as an adult to meet good girlfriends. Well I want to get a little feedback from the ladies and see if BFF parties is something that you might be interested in. I know that I would love to meet a good set of friends in Milwaukee...maybe you do too.

Just leave our thoughts about BFF parties...do you like the idea or not and what do you think we should do for a party?

Thanks
E