I've been dating a guy for about 10 months now. We actually live together. When I bought my house last year he moved in as a room mate. I dated him for a few months several years ago and we remained friends. So when he moved back to town I told him he could live with me. At the time we weren't romantic or anything, just friends. After spending a lot of time together we decided to make it official.
Well, lets flash forward to now. While we were talking today and he was doing laundry I found a receipt. A receipt for $10,000 paid to a home builder. Yep, my boyfriend has decided to go and buy his own house.
My heart sank. I was hurt and angry all at the same time. I couldn't stop crying. I feel betrayed.
When was he going to tell me that he did this? When the house was built and he gives me a 30 day notice? Was he just using me for a cheap place to live till his house was built?
He said that it had nothing to do with us. And that's true. He didn't think one thing about us when he signed those papers. No where was I even put into the equation. Sure, he now tells me that I can live there too, but I almost feel like he's has sealed our fate for this relationship. I've always heard you can't go backwards.
I'm trying to figure out what was he thinking? Was he just hoping that I'd go along with it? Did he even care? Part of me feels like that he didn't care and doesn't because this is what he wants to do.
I also have a feeling that he has a BIG problem with living in a house that "I" bought. You know how guys are about "their" stuff. I suppose he feels it's perfectly fine to expect me to live in "HIS" house with his stuff, and triple my commute to work because HE wants to live in that house that's "HIS".
I'm not sure what will happen from this point forward. He says he doesn't want to break up, but let's be honest, it doesn't look like he wants to stay in this relationship. So a part of me believes that I should just let him build his house and go on with his life, because clearly he does what he wants to do anyway.
Just like when we dated before. He did what he wanted, when he wanted and I was always an after thought.
I guess somethings don't change. What is the saying? A zebra can't change their strips. Or...
