Wednesday, June 17, 2009

AM I DOOMED IN THE LOVE DEPARTMENT?

I know I know...I'm not being very positive. And I know, right now I've other things to think about. But you know how I told you all my girlfriends have boyfriends except me? Well I was sitting here thinking that all of their guys would do and do anything for them. Let me explain.

First example, my girlfriend has been dating this guy for 2 months. They are already saying the "I love you's" and have talked about "What if they got married." Now she, similar to me is very focused on her job which is one that requires her to move. I asked her, "If you got a job somewhere else do you think that your man would go with you?" Without hesitation she said "yes...I definitely think he would." Now this is the 2nd guy she's dated that has or would move for just her job alone.

Can I tell you there's a part of me deep down that believes that I'll never find a guy that would EVEN JUST CONSIDER a move for me. I actually get sad sitting here thinking about it. I feel like I will always to be the one to give up and sacrifice for someone else. For the most part, everyone I've met is set on what they want...and what their plan is.


Maybe I've just haven't found the right person yet...but how is it that she can find more than one guy that would move for her and I can't so much as find one? I just wonder sometimes if I'm not meant to have anyone.

Example number 2. My other girlfriend has been dating this guy for awhile now. She decided that there were things that she thought he should improve on. She came up with a list of sorts that explained her distaste for the way things were going. She gave him the list...and so far he to my knowledge has done all of them or is improving on them. Now I might just be acting cynical here but, if I made a list for a guy...he might improve on one thing and then decide he rather have a girl that would let him do whatever he wants...trust me...that's happened.

Now, are these relationships without certain faults...no...but, I just wonder why can they find guys that will bend over backwards yet, all I have found is the guy that wants me to bend over? No pun intended!

Then, I thought "what if I get this job in Texas? What are guys like there?" So, I did a little looking on match.com just to see what there was. OMG! I thought that there were slim pickings in Milwaukee!!! The city I'm looking at is WAY bigger than here and it was very disappointing to say the least.I didn't find anyone remotely attractive. I looked at page after page thinking..."I just may be single for the rest of my life."

I'm starting to question...am I foolish to keep hoping for better or should I just realize and accept that there just may not be anyone for Erin Austin.

5 comments:

Sarah W said...

Texas guys are wonderful! I moved down from Detroit almost 4 years ago and I love hanging with my guy friends (and they are just friends)! They are all Southern gentlemen. Chivalry is not dead with them. Sadly, it doesn't seem to matter where you live -- the idea of an old-fashioned courtship has definitely gone the way of the dodo.

Don't give up on men so soon. There is someone out there for you and he may be down here! :-)

Good luck!

Trev said...

Good goddamn, Erin. Come on, now. Come the F on. Seriously. Are you so jaded that Texas ALREADY sucks? You judged the entire pool of men from what was on an internet dating site? Damn it woman! Is that what we've come to in this country? Female radio talent in mid to large sized markets doubting their ability to find love in a far off land they're not even in yet? Jesus, I'm better than Oprah.

Anonymous said...

If you find a job in BC you'll be pleasantly surprised that all the men there are soooo attractive. OMG, I was vacationing there & that was my first impression.

Erin Austin said...

SARAH...I think Texas will be better behaved. I guess yeaterday I was getting down and when I took a look on matchjust to get an idea...I got REALLY sad.

I guess I'll worry about the men there once I move there.

Trev!

You crack my stuff up! I know you're right...it's a small sample of what is out there. I gotta BELIEVE!

Dude said...

You put out negative energy and that is what you get back Erin. Why is it so easy for EVERYONE around you to see. Do you ever read these? It is f-ing depressing. You are so much beeter then this. If you had half as much confidence in life that you had on the radio, you would be fine. I think you expect too much. Just let things happen naturally. He is out there, if you just stop looking so hard and try to emit some POSITIVE energy.

-This one guy you know.